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Joan Santangelo posted a condolence
Thursday, May 11, 2023
It’s been 15 years today! So much wasted time that we could have shared. So sorry that you never were happy again. But you were always loved and still are. I miss you Kath!
Love you
Joan
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Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 26, 2022
Thought of you Sunday on your birthday! Cannot even picture you being 72! Miss you more than you can imagine.
Love, your big sister
Joan
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joan posted a condolence
Friday, August 11, 2017
Nine years and it still hurts! When does it get better?? Never thought that I would bury my baby sister! You have missed so much!
J
Joan Santangelo posted a condolence
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Tell Mommy and Daddy I said Happy Anniversary.
Still miss you and love you,
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Chip posted a condolence
Monday, May 11, 2009
Peace be with you Kathy. I hope your mom is ok and doing well!
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Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I said that I wouldn't write again but I have one more thing to say. Jim, you are right and I have to apologize to you. You are actually not the one who has caused the hurt and anger that I have. Yet, I have lashed out against you and your wife. I am sorry and even though you may not accept my apology please know that it is with my whole heart that I give it to you. My daughter and son has just tried to defend me as you have your family. I certainly understand that. I have to try to resolve my anger and hurt where I should not here. So, once again, I am sorry and actually felt like I was speaking to Kathy which does not excuse it.
Joan
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jim santangelo posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
You have some really serious issues arguing with my mother over the internet. Really brave of you, to try to put your sister down that way. She is obviously upset about your mother and still very upset about your sister, show a little compassion or are you incapable of that? For the past 20 some years she has been nothing to anyone in this family. When you were a child she was always there for you, but that stuff you never remember do you????? She was absolutely right, you lost your house because you were "lazy", does anyone in that family want to work for anything you get? Or, is it better to wait for someone to die so you can get their money? You have something nasty to say, try saying it to me "face to face" but i doubt you would!!
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Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Dear Kathy,
I am so sorry that this has all come about. I never meant to hurt anyone. This was a way to talk to you like we would have if you were still here. I was going to stop writing on your anniversary but will stop today. I do not want this to continue. I am asking my son to please respect my wishes and not write again. I love you .
Love,
J
Jim Fidelibus posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
You mean "face to face" like your mom does in these posts? The cruel things she has said about me, my wife and mother were never said to my face. That is why I was so shocked to see them here. Now I know her true feelings. Thanks for letting me know that she also believes I'm lazy and just waiting for my mom to die. She never said that to me "face to face". Anything else she hasn't told me yet?
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Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
Hi Kath,
Just tried to get mommy but no answer. I left her a message so hopefully I will get back to her some time this afternoon. Hope we are getting good news. Have to watch the baby so I'll just try later.
Love,
J
Jim Fidelibus posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
You have the right to post whatever you want, and so do I. I also have the right to respond to any comments made on this forum. This is the Internet; you are not speaking only to Kathy.
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Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, I just talked to mommy and I feel a little more hopeful. When she called me on Friday she said "your mother has cancer." Now she is telling me that what she actually heard was the doctor saying to Norma "that doesn't necessarily mean it is cancer." I feel a lot better about that. I know we still have to wait for the test but I can hope at least. It is really strange that our brother seems to think that he has the right to tell me what I can say to you. No one has that right. I am speaking to you and if anyone doesn't like what I say they can stop reading my post. I feel better when I "talk" to you because this is something that I really miss. You know just how often we talked and about everything. There is no relationship like sisters. Especially sisters who grew up together so close. We shared a room and all of our secrets. Let's hope that mommy will be ok and if it is cancer that they can treat it. She said that Norma found the doctor that you had gotten her when she had the breast cancer. I hope we don't need the doctor but I am glad that they found where the doctor is practicing She was talking about it this morning and saying how it made her think of you. I'm sure that you are in her mind a lot especially right now. She goes back to the doctor tomorrow so I hope that we will actually know something then.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
Well Kath, apparently he changed his mind. I am now allowed to post whatever I want. I don't recall ever telling anyone else what to do. I am still trying to reach mommy, it is 7:21pm so I don't know if I will get her tonight, you know that she goes to sleep early. Hopefully things went well.
Love,
J
Jim Fidelibus posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
You don't need to repeat what I post. Especially when it's directly below yours.
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Jim Fidelibus posted a condolence
Monday, March 30, 2009
Actually you did tell us what to do. On February 26th you wrote "His wife should go back to work or he should get a part time job at night like my husband and my son did."
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Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Well Kath, according to Jim it is not positive yet. Mommy told me that it was. I am sure that she must have been so upset that she didn't hear the doctor correctly. So hopefully we still have a chance that it is not cancer. Please pray for her and have daddy pray too. We really don't want to lose her yet. She told me that she wanted a second opinion and I told her that if it is cancer she would have an oncologist to take care of her. She said she would like to find the doctor that she had when she had the breast cancer. Maybe Jim or Norma know who it was. I am hoping now that we won't need this at all. I wish that he had told me this when he sent me the email on Friday but I imagine that he didn't know that mommy had told me that it was cancer. I will be praying for her tomorrow while she is being tested.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Hi Kath,
I was talking to mommy today and I was telling her about my sister in law Marie's cousin. She had lung cancer and lived for 17 years. She had one lung removed and then half of the second lung. She only died last year. They have so many new treatments that they didn't have years ago. I think it is important that she keeps her spirits up too.
Love,
J
Jim Fidelibus posted a condolence
Saturday, March 28, 2009
As of right now, no diagnosis has been made. Her lungs are too fragile for a bronchoscopy to take a biopsy, so she's having a PET scan Monday to determine if the lesion on the CT is cancer.
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Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Well Kath, she has lung cancer. We don't really know much yet. She is going to get another test on Monday and we should know more then. I am hoping that maybe she can get radiation or chemo. You always said that you didn't want to go through this and now you won't have to face it. I almost am glad for you right now. You would not have been able to deal with this. I really do miss having you with me.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Hi Kath,
Had a really hard time sleeping last night. Really could have used a talk with you. I guess I'll know just how bad it is today. Mommy said she will let me know what the doctor says after her appointment. Say a prayer for her and one for me.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Hi Kath,
I am really missing you tonight. I can't stop thinking about tomorrow and what will I hear. Am I going to have to deal with bad news alone? You would have been on the phone with me all night and I would be calming you down. I think I now realize that helping you keep calm actually kept me calm. Just really wish that you were here and I could talk to you tonight.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Hi Kath,
I have been saying that I miss you but never as much as today. Mommy just called me and she is seeing the doctor tomorrow. She thinks that he is worried that she has lung cancer. I would be with you right now. We could comfort each other like nobody else. It's funny how sisters always seem to know how to take care of each other. It just makes it harder. You know the situation with Jim so it's not like there would be any comfort there. I am the outsider completely now that you are gone. At least while you were still here you always made sure that I was included and I would have been there for you. I am best in the big sister role. I don't know how to be an only child. I am trying to remain calm and wait until we hear something definite but I could hear how worried mommy is and it scared me too. Say a prayer for her. Missing you,
Your big sister,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 23, 2009
Hi Kath,
Finally found the cross and chain that I wanted to get for Justin for his First Communion. I know it's early but I wanted to be sure that I got the kind that I wanted.
We went over Jimmy's and cooked out on Sunday. We ended up going inside to eat because it was a little too chilly to stay outside. Jimmy got another part time job and is hoping that eventually he will be able to quit the night job. He is having an awful time trying to sleep. I'm sure the worry is keeping him from sleeping too. Joani said today that a big law firm in town with 300 laywers is closing. More people will be out of work. It is really frightening.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Hi Kath,
Today is St Joseph's Day. Remember when we were kids how mad we would get because we weren't allowed to wear red on St Joseph's Day? We used to say why do they make such a big deal out of St Patrick's day and ignore St Joseph. The kids couldn't wear red today either. Funny the things that make me think of you. It's like your are always a part of everything that happens.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Hi Kath,
Yesterday was St Patrick's Day. The kids got to wear green to school. Jimmy called me last night and said that Septa is checking his references. That is a good sign. Maybe something good will happen. I certainly hope so. It seems like there are no jobs at all out there. I am so worried about him. This was something that we never faced, there were always jobs if you wanted to work. I don't know what is going to become of this world. Please say prayers for him to find something so that he can support his family. Think of you often Kath and especially now. It is coming up on a year and I still haven't really accepted it. It is so hard.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 16, 2009
Hi Kath,
Joani's girls marched in the St Patty's Day Parade yesterday. I actually saw Gina on TV. It was so fast that I didn't spot Tiffany. They were in that FACE group that Gina belongs to at school. Such a small amount of kids showed up that they asked Tif to march too. Jimmy, Linda and the girls came over yesterday. He is still trying so hard to find a job. I wish that there was somthing that I could do to help him.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Hi Kath,
I was looking for a recipe today and found the recipe for your pot roast. Do you remember how good you made it? I don't remember where you got the recipe. I was racking my brain but couldn't remember. Mommy doesn't even remember the recipe. I actually have a pot roast in the freezer so I think that I will make it next week. It will make me think of you. Sometimes smells and tastes can bring me right back to when you were here. The kids are finally better except for Gina still has the cough. Jimmy is still trying so hard to find a job. It is so discouraging. Think of you often,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Hi Kath,
Yesterday was Tif's birthday. She is 15 already! She has your name. Joani named her Tiffany Kathleen. So, your name will carry on. It seems like just yesterday all of the girls were just tiny babies. They are such good kids. I am so proud of them. It's a shame that you never got to know them. The choices that we make in our life sometimes really change things. The weather is finally getting warmer and now that we changed the clocks it stays light later. I am glad that this winter is almost done but it is just bringing it closer to a year that we have been without you. I still hear something and think, I have to call Kathy. Then it hits me all over again. I especially can not stand to hear anyone say anything about "sisters" when I am watching tv because it just makes me think that I don't have a sister anymore. I think of you all of the time.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Kath, I think that today was the first time that I actually wrote on the 11th. It is 10 months today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 9, 2009
Hi Kath,
That was weird. I wrote in your gurestbook and when it got to the page to accept it just threw me out. Well, the weekend was really nice weather and we had a cookout at my Jimmy's. He has prospects on two jobs and I certainly hope that one pans out. It is really scary how this economy is going. I don't ever remember it being like this and mommy said that this reminds her of when she was a child in the depression. I certainly hope that things start to turn around soon.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, March 6, 2009
Hi Kath,
Did I tell you that Erica is getting an award in school? I have to find out if it is something that we can go to or not. She has to really try hard and they gave her an award before too. I am very proud of her. Gina got sick in school again today and we went and picked her up. Thank God it was right after I pick up Justin so he went with us. We waited for Tif because they were getting out early anyway. I hope that she will feel better after this weekend. We are thinking of asking the grandmothers over this weekend. We haven't had them here for a while. I got all of the birthday cards that I will be needing too. I also ordered the "growing up girls" that I give the girls for their birthdays. I have a surprise for them too. Justin will be making first communion but I couldn't find a "grandson first communtion" card and that is what I want. I'll have to go to a Hallmark store. I'll find it there. It is finally getting warmer. We turn the clocks forward this weekend. Miss talking to you Kath,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, Gina was home again today. Yesterday Justin had such a bloody nose, I couldn't believe it. Thankfully he seems better today. He went to school today and tomorrow they all get out early. Justin has a half day so he gets out at 11:30 and Gina is going to try to get through tomorrow because Tif and her get out at 12:30. Hopefully after this weekend everybody will be well again. It is actually supposed to be 70 on Sunday. I can hardly believe it. Kath, it is almost 10 months since you left us. It has been so hard. Some days are really unbearable. I try not to talk about it all of the time because I don't want to bring everybody else down. I wish I could just accept it. I don't think that I ever will. I miss you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, everybody is back to school today but I just hope that they actually get through the day. Justin and Gina still really are not feeling like themselves. Gina has an early day today and Friday so she is trying to get through it and Justin has Tera Nova testing starting tomorrow so we wanted him to get back to school. The teachers will go over things today and we don't want him to miss that. It is a lot harder to take that testing alone than when the entire class is doing the same thing. Hopefully we won't get any calls today. Neither one of them is really eating so that isn't helping either. I hope that this snow melts quickly too. Maybe if the weather changes we will get rid of all this sickness that is around.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Hi Kath,
Justin and Gina were home sick today. Hopefully one or both of them will be going back to school tomorrow. They just can't seem to shake this sickness. Artie took Tif to school this morning and then picked me up so that I didn't have to walk in the snow. Joani picked up Tif and then I walked home. It wasn't really bad by then. The sun had melted a lot of the ice already. If it would just get a little warmer it would melt this stuff. Jimmy got a call from Kelloggs and they are going to set up an appointment for next week. Hopefully it will lead to something. I am really praying for him.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, March 2, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well we really got the snow today! Kids were off from school. Artie took a day so that I didn't have to go over there today. They always worry about me falling on the ice and snow. I was up really early so that I could have left early and taken my time getting there. Tif is finally better, Justin is feeling better but not up to himself and now Gina wasn't feeling great. So, I don't know for sure but Gina may be home tomorrow. It's like we just can't seem to get rid of this lousy sickness. Still praying for Jimmy to find something full time.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Hi Kath,
It snowed last night but not much. Tonight it is supposed to snow a lot. Justin is still sick but Tif is finally better. Jimmy is still looking for a job but so are a lot of people. It is scary to see how many people are out of work.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, February 27, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well Tif is finally feeling better and Justin was sick today. He didn't go to school. He had fever and really felt awful. He said his throat was hurting and his head was hurting. He barely ate anything all day. I feel sorry for Joani because I know how hard it is to work when the kids are sick. I know that she wanted to be with Tif all week and now today she had two of them home sick. Hopefully he will be well enough to go back to school on Monday. I hope that he doesn't have what Tif had. I guess we should be glad that he didn't get sick last week when he made his Penance, thank God.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, Tif ended up in the ER yesterday. She was so sick. Thank God, she is feeling much better. She had intervenious while she was there and I think that whatever they gave her finally helped. She even ate today and that is the first day that she actually wanted to eat. Hopefully she will be able to go back to school on Monday. She has a lot to catch up but at least she has Gina who already had all of the things that she has. Talking about Gina, she was offered a spot in a program where she would be able to go to college for half days next year. She was accepted but I don't think that she is going to take it. She would miss out on things in her Senior year. It is an important year and naturally she wants to enjoy it. She worked really hard to get there.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Hi Kath,
Would you believe that now Artie and Justin aren't feeling great? I hope that Justin will be able to go to school tomorrow. Maybe he doesn't have what Tif had and then he has the weekend to get better. It just seems like they can't shake it. I called mommy today but naturally I started to tell her about Tif and she cut in with how sick Jenn was. She said Jenn had a cold. Look, I don't want to see Jenn sick but really A Cold??? Tif has been sick for over a week and ended up in the ER! Then she told me Aunt Pat had REALLY been sick. When she says that I feel like say "as opposed to who?" I call her back when she calls and she still says what she wants to say and then gets off of the phone. Did she ask about my Jimmy? NO, naturally but "poor Jim" she is worried about him. I hope he makes all the money that he can but right now considering my son is out of work, I am not very worried about him. His wife should go back to work or he should get a part time job at night like my husband and my son did. Enough....it is like this every time that I call her. That's why I try not to talk to her too often.
You were the only one who understood what it was like because she did it to you too. I really miss you Kath.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Hi Kath,
Tif is still sick. Joani took her back to the doctor on Monday. She has to stay out of school all week. She is not happy about that because it is hard to catch up after being out so long. And you know that they both have high standings in the school. Thankfully Gina will be able to help her with anything that they learned while she was out. Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday. Spring is really on its way. I will be glad to see this cold weather end because my heating bill has been so high! I hope that Jimmy hears something soon. He put in for another job today for Kelloggs. It would be so great if he could get something and it wasn't in the car business. It is the worse that I have ever seen, mommy says that it reminds her of the depression. I really feel that we are in a depression.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, February 23, 2009
Hi Kath,
Didn't hear anything on the job yet. We went to that restaurant last night. The one that Joani & Artie gave us for our anniversary. It was so good. I never have been to a place like this before. They just keep coming around with all different cuts of meat on the skewers. You actually get a little disc that you put on the table and turn the green side for more or the red side if you want to stop for a while. Then they gave us a free dessert for our anniversary. It was really a great place. I would like to take my kids there for a party but it is really expensive and actually Joani and her kids are not big meat eaters. Jimmy's family would love it. You would have loved it Kath, especially the service, it was like being on a cruise ship.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well he is still waiting to hear from the security job. The board has to vote on it so it is up in the air until then. The airport job is not going to work. The salary was a joke. He couldn't live on it. I hope that Linda gets something full time soon. That would really be a big help. Doing a part time job now is really not much help. At least they would be able to get on the health insurance and that would be a big worry relieved. It really takes two full time jobs today and then besided that the kids are getting older and will soon be looking into colleges. They have been going to public school so they haven't had to pay tuitions but that will be a big chunk of money! It really is hard today and this economy does not seem to be getting any better. Justin makes his First Penance today. It's hard to believe that he is that old already. It feels like just yesterday that Gina was born! I'm really sorry that you never got to know the kids, you would have loved them.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, Jimmy called last night and the very unexpected happened. He has been working security at a condo building and they offered him full time. I am thrilled for him but I am also worried. I just hope that it is not going to be a dangerour job. He said that they want him to handle the whole thing. So he kind of would be in charge and be able to set his own hours. He said he will probably still go for the interview for the airlines job just to see what is better. I hope that he makes the best decision for him. I am praying to Our Lady to help him to see what is best for them. I just want to see him working and being able to live again.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Hi Kath,
So, Jimmy has the interview next Thursday. He actually has to have his high school diploma. I couldn't believe that I found it. I never heard of a job where you had to bring your diploma. Especially after so many years have passed since your graduation.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Hi Kath,
I called mommy yesterday. In the beginning I was trying to call every day. I really can't do it. I started to tell her that Jimmy might have a lead on a job and never got the chance to say it. She immediately started telling me that she is so worried about her Jim. She worries that he might lose his job and that he doesn't make enought money. Norma is not working and she worries that she will never go back. I understand that she is worried but since my son is the one who actually is out of work I would think she would give me a chance to say something. Everytime I start to say something she just talks right over me about what she wants to say. I was paying for the call, I know when she calls she only says what she wants to say and hangs up. I even call her back so she won't have to pay and I bought her a phone card for Christmas. I guess I should just not call too often because I really have a hard time dealing with it. If I don't call she will let two weeks go by before she will call me so I don't think she is really worried about talking to me anyway. And right now I have other things on my mind.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, February 16, 2009
Hi Kath,
Kids came over yesterday. Everything went good. Jimmy hasn't heard anything yet, he's supposed to hear something from them on Tuesday. Hopefully all will go well. I am praying to Our Lady. Please say some prayers for him too. Miss you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Hi Kath,
Jimmy has a lead on a job. Please ask Our Lady to help him. I am praying that everything goes well. It is Valentine's Day today. We really don't have any plans because it is usually so crowded in restaurants I can't stand it. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, February 13, 2009
Hi Kath,
It was so windy yesterday. Even tho it was not that cold the wind made it feel a whole lot colder. Justin went to his pizza day at school. I couldn't believe that they let them play outside. I would have gone to see him at lunch if I had thought that they would let them go outside. The girls have their dance tonight. Hope that they have a good time. Haven't really talked to mommy this week, only the day that she called. Sometimes I have to take a break because I get so tired of hearing the same thing. Right now I have my own worries and my son is not working. She is worrying about what MIGHT happen. I am worrying about what DID happen. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Hi Kath,
Another nice day. We have had a week of beautiful days but I think that it is ending now. Possibility of snow on Saturday which is Valentine's Day. We're having the kids over on Sunday. I really wish that Jimmy would hear from someone about a job. I know that he has to be really worried. I don't know what to do for them. We never faced things like this. Mommy finally called me the other day. I gave her the phone card and when she calls I always tell her to hang up and I will call her back. It's not like she comes here and uses gas or anything. It hurts tho that if I don't call her she just seems to forget about me. I think that I am just feeling down because of the way things are going in this world. It's like everything is on a downward spiral. I wish that things would start to look up. Love ya,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Hi Kath,
Going to the Open House for Justin finally. The last two weeks it snowed when we were supposed to have this. He didn't feel great last night so I am glad that he is feeling okay today. Will let you know how everything goes later.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Hi Kath,
Open house was really nice. Not too many people showed up. I think that because they cancelled it twice people got confused as to when it was going to happen.
Hoping that my Jimmy finds something soon. I am really worried about him. I wish that he would turn to God for some help. I know that that is something that can't hurt. I pray all the time for him and for my daughter and the rest of my family. Please put in a good word if you can. Our Lady always seems to help when anyone asks for help.
Love,
j
jim Santangelo posted a condolence
Monday, February 9, 2009
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Out of a real job at the minute, been very down about things. I try to stay upbeat and positive, but it is hard. Say a prayer that things work out for me please
Missing you
Jim
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Hi Kath,
Went to the Mother-Daughter dinner dance. It was really nice. The kids really had a nice time. I was thinking of you so much today. You would be so proud of all of my grandchildren. I am so sad that you never had the opportunity to really get to know them. Erica would make you laugh. She's only about as big as you were Kath. You would finally have had someone your size. She is not even 5 feet tall. Don't know why but you have been in my mind so much today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Hi Kath,
Finally the weather is breaking. It is actually going to be nice for the next week. Tomorrow we go to the mother daughter dance. It is really nice. They have great food and then all of the kids dance. The girls really have a good time and I really enjoy it too. I'm glad that Joani and the girls invited me to go with them. Last year it was snowing when we went but thankfully it should be really nice this year.
Love,
Joan
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Hi Kath,
Everything was okay with the mammogram. Joani sent me an email today about a phone number that leaves a message and tries to get you to call back. Then they charge you a fortune when you call back. I sent it to everyone on my mailing list and our brother actually emailed me. I was kind of shocked to tell you the truth.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Hi Kath,
Boy did we get the snow! We got 8 inches in the city. Now I have to go in town today and get my mammogram. I don't know if I am going to take the car or not. I have to see if I can even get it out of the street! The only good thing about it being on a Wednesday is that the trash trucks came through the street. We are trying to meet up with Art and Dolores too because they are going in town to a doctor's appointment. I guess we'll just have to play it by ear today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Hi Kath,
No snow so far. It is just wet out. Hopefully we won't end up with a lot. They are calling for 2 to 4 inches. I really hate the snow. I hate being stuck in the street and not being able to move my car. I worry about mommy because she will try to drive in it and I don't really think she should be driving at all. She is so nervous and gets so upset so easily. If her street is blocked she will panic. And then if Jen calls her she will still go out in it even if she is scared. I told her that Jen is smart enough to understand that if she told her that she is scared. If she wants or needs to go to Jim's house they should pick her up. I wouldn't dream of asking her to drive to my house. I know that she is afraid of the bridge.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, February 2, 2009
Hi Kath,
Watched the game last night. It was so good! I'm not usually a football fan but I couldn't take my eyes off of the screen. Now it is supposed to snow again. They just rescheduled Justin's open house for Wednesday so who knows if it will snow and it will get cancelled again. I hope not.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Hi Kath,
Jimmy had two interviews today. Both in Philly. Hopefully one will pan out. It is so frustrating to watch your kids trying so hard and nothing happening. I know that we have to be glad that it is only a money thing but that really is important too. I watched Artie and Joani go through this too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Hi Kath,
Snowed yesterday and the kids were off. Artie took off because Joani didn't want me to walk in the ice. Jimmy's kids went in 2 hours late. They very seldom ever get a snow day. Justin has a breakfast today at school and Joani and Artie can go. It's because of his high marks. He was really excited. The other night his show was so cute. Their room really stole the show. You would have loved it.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, January 26, 2009
Hi Kath,
Jimmy still looking for a job. All of us praying that he finds something and praying that no one else loses their jobs. Hoping that Linda will find something full time in the Dentist office. That would be a really big thing. It would give Jimmy a little breathing room. Even if he has to take something with less pay, if she is working full time it wouldn't be too bad. Today you need two full time jobs to pay your bills. Never was in this position but feeling so bad for my kids. This is really a scary world!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Hi Kath,
Got new boots today. Been looking for quite a while. Had the kids over for dinner. I think the grandchildren enjoy getting together too. I think it was good for Jimmy too. Talking to Artie and Joani helped because they have both been through this before. Linda is trying to get back into the dentist office too. I think that would be better for her too. She would get benefits and paid vacation. It would be a boost for her self confidence too. She is worth more than the job she is doing. I am praying that Jimmy finds something soon!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, January 23, 2009
Hi Kath,
Watched Lost and it really was strange not being able to call you. Justin was sick the other day so I was with him. The girls took their midterms so they were getting out at odd times. Next week is Catholic School week so my times will be different than normal.
Jimmy got a part time job til he finds something full time. Hopefully it will not take too long. This economy is really hard! I never remember it being this bad before.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Hi Kath,
Talked to mommy yesterday. Jenn is sick again. That child gets sick so much. I know one year she missed so much school mommy was afraid it was going to mean that she could be kept her back. And the worse part is she's smart and has good marks. It's really a shane.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, January 19, 2009
Hi Kath,
Well, they swear in the new President tomorrow. I hope that he does all that he says he is going to do. Number one is create new job opportunities. I am really worried about Jimmy with the economy being the way that it is. This country is so changed! Before you got a job and as long as you did your job you didn't have to worry. Now even if you do your job you are never safe. There is no such thing as job security today. I am so glad that I am retired. But I still have the kids to worry about. They are just trying to live their lives and they keep getting pushed down. Pray for them Kath,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Hi Kath,
Never turned the computer on yesterday. Woke up to some snow this morning. Thankfully it is light. Frani sent me an email on Friday and it was 27 below 0 where she lives. I wouldn't want to be there! Florida had 50 degrees. That's more to my liking. The Eagles only have to win one more game and they will be in the superbowl game. Justin is all into it. He reminds me of my Jimmy. He is really into all sports.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Hi Kath,
Started to watch Lost last night and I picked up the phone to call you. I knew you would have wanted to see it. Seems so strange not to be sharing this with you. We always talked about Lost and discussed what we thought would happen. Going to be hard to watch without thinking of you this year.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Hi Kath,
I was getting ready to tell you about us needing to get a whole new roof but have worse news. My Jimmy called and he was layed off. The auto industry is really being hit hard. I don't know what he is going to do because I really think it is going to be hard to find something. So many people are out of work! Lets hope that this new president is going to do something to help the country to recover.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, January 12, 2009
Hi Kath,
Had a nice time yesterday. Think that the kids enjoyed it too. Joani and the girls asked me to go to the Mother-Daughter dinner dance. You remember I went last yeat too. It's really nice. They hold it at the Drexelbrook. Something to lood forward to...
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Hi Kath,
Waiting for Jimmy to pick us up. You know my husband, he is a worrier. He wants to go with Jimmy because he is afraid that coming home, Jimmy will get here first and then he won't be here to watch for the cat. Didn't really get any snow last night. Thank God. I think that we are almost decided on doing the cruise in November. Since Jim is going to be 70 and our anniversary is then it would be something really nice.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Hi Kath,
talking about snow for today. I hope we don't get it! I hate being stuck and not being able to move the car. You know where I live once you move your car you can't find another spot. Plus if it snows while I'm parked up the street I might not be able to get out. Joani is sick but taking antibiotic so I am hoping, if the weather is ok, that we will still be able to go on Sunday. Jimmy said he would take me to the cemetery but I have to get my mind set for going. I don't know how I woud feel seeing your name on the stone. I don't want to see Bud's either. I have no interest in where he is now.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, January 9, 2009
Hi Kath,
Another cold day. They are saying that we might get snow on Saturday into Sunday. I hope not because we are taking the kids out on Sunday. We started this about two years ago. We usually go one Sunday before Christmas but couldn't get together this year. Hopefully it will be okay to go. Joani is sick right now too. I am hoping that she will feel better too. Her asthma is giving her a lot of trouble and she has a bronchial thing too. She doesn't need any more breathing problems with the asthma that she has.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Hi Kath,
Justin is having an "Eagles Dress Down Day". Joani had to go out and get him an Eagles jersey last night. Thankfully we have Forman Mills right here and they have everything that you could want for the sports teams. It's cute because it gives them a day without wearing their school uniform. Haven't talked to mommy this week, guess I'll have to call. Taking the kids out for dinner this weekend. We usually do it right before Christmas but couldn't seem to find a day when we could all go.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Hi Kath,
Would you believe it's another rainy day. I am just thankful that all of this rain hasn't been ice or snow. I hate that! I have been trying to decide where we are going for vacation. I am still thinking of a cruise but I don't know when we will go. I am going back and forth between May and November. Either close to my birthday or near Jim's birthday and our anniversary. We would have to wait for November because sometimes October has hurricanes. It is half of the fun just deciding.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Hi Kath,
It' miserable today. It looks like either rain or snow. I hope that it doesn't snow. I want to be able to walk again today. Hopefully it will help me to lose weight. I want to be able to tell the eye doctor that I actually did it this time.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, January 5, 2009
Hi Kath,
Kids went back to school so we are back to notmal. I am looking at Cruises because I think we are going to go on a cruise with the gift card for the airfare that Joani and Artie gave us. I am thinking of going to the Bahamas. We had scheduled a trip there a few years back but had to cancel when we were both having trouble with our knees. I started walking today to get in shape.
Last night I put the flannel sheets and blanket that Jimmy and Linda gave us. It is the first night that I didn't feel cold. They are really great. Ever since I had that gallbladder operation I am cold all of the time. Big change for me who was always hot!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Hi Kath,
Went to early Mass and then went shopping. Got some low calorie things. Trying to take off some weight. We were supposed to go to the movies today but decided to look for a space heater. Found one at Target. Hope it works good, so far it feels like it is going to help keep it warm in here. Then we went to 99 for a combined lunch and dinner. Had a turkey club and it was really good. Kids go back to school tomorrow and like gets back to normal. Next Sunday I am taking them all to 99 for dinner. We usually do it before Christmas but this year it just didn't seem to work out. Somebody was always busy every Sunday.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Hi Kath,
Was thinking of the "sister" throw that I sent to you. I'm so glad that I did it when I did. Wonder where it is now. We put all of the Christmas things away and put bags of food in the freezer and now everything goes back to normal. It seems so bleak now. It takes a while to get back to normal after the holidays are done. Monday the kids all go back to school. Mommy said that Jim is back to work so that's good for them. I don't think that Norma ever went back. I don't know how she can stay out so long. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, January 2, 2009
Hi Kath,
The kids came over yesterday. We had a nice time. The parade got over early for the first time. I don't think that you would have lasted out there for very long. It was really cold out there! Sent Jen a card but apparently she hasn't been on the computer because she hasn't seen it yet. Wanted to thank her for the candle. I have so much food left. When I took the ham out we were all thinking of you. Even my son said it. We all remember how much you loved it. Wish you could have been here to enjoy it with us.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Happy New Year Kath,
Seems really strange to be starting a new year without you. Hard to believe still that I can't pick up the phone and call you. We were talking about the campground where you and Freddie had your trailer and I couldn't remember the name. I actually was getting ready to call you and ask. My Joani remembered...North Wildwood Campground. I kept thinking Driftwood but that was the sign where we turned. Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Hi Kath,
Going to spend the day cooking. You know I always have lots of food for New Years. Jimmy and his family will probably come over to see the parade for a little while tomorrow. I have meatballs, pork roast, ham, potato salad, macaroni salad, cole slaw, shrimp, and more. Desserts too. Wish you could be here to eat and celebrate with us.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Getting ready to go to the doctor. Hopefully everything will be ok and no changes. I worry every time I go that it will have gotten worse. Say a little prayer for me.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, I have good news and bad news. My numbers are low so that's good but he saw fat deposits in my veins. Now I am going to have to try to lose some weight. He said if it is happening in my eyes then it must be happening all over. So, I am going to try to only eat healthy from now on. Hopefully that will help to lower the fat content.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
You wouldn't believe how warm it is today! It's in the 60's. We went to church and then shopping. I had to get food for the cat too. Still haven't brought back my clothes that have to be exchanged. I have to go to the eye doctor tomorrow. Hopefully my glaucoma hasn't gotten any worse. I wish that Chip would stop trying to stay in touch with mommy. She really doesn't know how to tell him not to call or write anymore. She really doesn't need any more drama in her life right now. If he really cared about her he would just let her be. We're going to Dolores' on Tuesday. Know that we will have a great time, we always do when we're with them.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy said that the stone is on now. I want to go and I don't want to go. I don't know how I will feel seeing your name on it. I think it will make it happen all over again and I don't know how I feel about that. I have to think about it. I won't go with mommy because she went with Norma and Tom and I don't want to go with anoyone else. My son said that he would take me if I want to go so I'll have to decide when and if I am going. It is just hard to see something that makes it real. I know that you never went to daddys so if I decide not to go I know that you will understand.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, December 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, Christmas is over but we had a good one considering what a year this has been. We really enjoyed Christmas eve with all of the kids and Christmas day we were at Jimmy's and had a really nice time. It is funny to see how grown up the girls are now. Thankfully we still have Justin, the only little one left. We're hoping to get to see Art and Dolores over the holidays. I feel like I am getting a cold. Hopefully cold capsules will take care of that. Gave mommy a phone card and gave Jenn a whole thing of Lip glosses. It is hard to know what to give her since I really don't have any contact with her. I have some clothes to return but I won't do that until at least next Tuesday. I can't take the crowds. Thinking of you on the holiday was nice, we talked about happy times. That's what I like to remember. When things were good.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas Kathy,
Didn't tell you about the gifts last night. Jimmy and Linda got us flannel sheets and a blanket, really pretty in a blue pattern. Joani and Artie got us plane tickets! We book our flight on Southwest and use the gift card that they gave us. I don't know where we are going to go yet. We have to think about it. I have so many places that I would like to see. We got the girls Wii games and Justin Star Wars guys and a Batcave and remote control racing cars. Got Jimmy and Linda a 52 cup coffee urn and gave them money. Gave Joani and Artie a 4 slice toaster and a pancake pan that makes designs on the pancakes and we gave them money too. Well, I am getting ready to go to Mass so I will talk to you tomorrow.
Love,
j
jim santangelo posted a condolence
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas Aunt Kathy,
Wish you were here to see how our kids are growing up. The five of them make us all so happy!!
Miss you. Help my mother have peace!
Jimmy
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
Been thinking of you all day. Getting the house and the food ready for Christmas eve makes me think of when we were kids. I'm really missing you today. This is the hardest day yet. I always think of you on Christmas but now I can't talk to you and it is really hard. Please know how much I miss you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Well, everybody just left. It was ok. We even talked about you. It wouldn't be Christmas without mentioning your name. We all talked about things that happened that you were a part of. Really am missing you and now I don't feel like I have a brother either. Things are not good between us even tho there was no actual problem. Just distance and time. Seems like my husband, kids, inlaws and grandchildren are what I have left. Don't even really see mommy on Christmas. Usually when I stop with my gift she is not home. Well, it really is a shame but thank God I have MY family. They never make me feel alone!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani is going to help out in Justin's class today. They are having a Pizza Christmas party today. So, Jim and I are going to go out to eat this afternoon. Joani and Artie gave us a gift card to Brio's an Italian restaurant in Cherry Hill. We are going there today. We went there for Erica's 16th birthday party and they are really good! I made some cookies last night. When I come home today I am going to make the pumpkin cakes. Won't make the pies until tomorrow. Haven't talked to mom so I don't know how Jim is doing. You know that situation. I'll probably drop her gift and Jen's off at mommys on Christmas day since we go to Jimmy's house.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
Getting ready for Mass. We finished the last two gifts that we had to get yesterday. We went over my Jimmy's for the "Santa on the fire truck." Every year Jimmy and the fire police go all around Cherry Hill and take Santa on the fire truck. The truck is all decorated and lights are flashing. You would have loved it! Going to do the cookies today. Then I'll pretty much be done with just a trip to BJ's for the chicken that I want.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, it's the last weekend before Christmas. I am remembering how much you always loved Christmas. Even when you were little, we would be so excited and then on Christmas eve we would hear the sleigh bells at midnight and mommmy and daddy would let us come down and open our gifts. Remember when we did that with Jim? He wouldn't go back to sleep all night! So glad that we still have Justin or Christmas wouldn't be as much fun. Santa always makes the holiday fun. Have to get some last minute things for our Christmas Eve dinner. Guess I have to figure out what we are having for Christmas dinner too. We eat at Jimmy's on Christmas.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, December 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
I guess Jim will be going home today. Hopefully it will be for good. I still don't understand what is going on but let's hope that the doctors do. I have to go back to the eye doctor on the Monday after Christmas. Hopefully there will be no worsening of my eyes. I also hope that they leave me on the same drops. I have gotten used to them but you never know. He is always changing them if he thinks something might be better.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Now he is not being operated. He is going home tomorrow! I don't understand how one day he is so sick that he needs an operation and the next day he is going home. I just hope that these doctors know what they are doing. I know that mommy is a wreck. I also had bad news about my husbands uncle Leonard. He has throat cancer. It is supposed to be curable so hopefully he will be allright. Aunt Marie was in the hospital but Babe said that she is doing well and was released. She had pneumonia.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Hi Kath,
They did more tests on Jim and now they find he has a bleeding ulcer. Daddy had that remember? Mommy said that they were thinking of operating on him. I talked to her three times today and she hasn't called me back to let me know if they ended up operating or not. I wish they would let me know what is going on sometimes. I just feel like right now I can't let myself get anymore upset.
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
I keep forgetting to tell you that Sunday, at Mass, I was reading the church bulletin and both of Joani's daughters were in there. They both got first honors! They don't rank them until the second report so I don't know where they stand yet. Last year, before Tif came to the school, Gina was number 2 in her year. Hopefully she will still be up there and Tif will be for her year too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Well, Jim is back in the hospital. Apparently they didn't really take care of him the last time he was in....now he is worse than when they admitted him before. I talked to mommy and Norma and they both sounded like they really didn't know what was going on yet. Hopefully they will get some new ideas once they give him the rest of the tests tomorrow.
Today would have been mommy and daddy's 65 anniversary. Hard to believe isn't it?
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
It's warm today. Seems funny to be this nice so close to Christmas. I remember when we were kids and always wanted it to snow on Christmas. Remember trying to figure out what we would bring with us to grandmom's house. We really just wanted to stay home and play with our toys. I always remember the pumpkin pie too. Hope that you can have it in heaven.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just came home from being out all day. We went to the movies after Church this morning. Then we went to the diner. We went to Forman Mills, Kmart and then to the Acme. I got all the things that I need for Christmas Eve dinner. We have shrimp, chicken, lasagna, mac and cheese, corn and brocolli. I am making pies and cookies. Mommy keeps saying that she wants to get a cell phone. I have a senior phone so we can only have two phones on our plan. Jim should put her on his plan because he only has three phones and it would probably only cost about $10 extra a month which I am sure mommy would be willing to pay. I don't want to suggest it because it seems that whatever I say it is not very welcome. I put your name in for flowers on the altar for Christmas. I put you, daddy, my father in law and my Spooky. Your name will be on the altar for all of the Christmas Masses. Thinking about you a lot Kath. All of the special things we had to remember from when we were kids and then as we grew up. My kids have been mentioning you a lot too. They think that you would understand the situation and want me to do what makes it easier for me. Which is what I am going to do from now on...Love ya Kath,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
I don't remember if I told you but mommy gave me your wedding ring from Freddie. I am wearing it on my chain from my husband with the cross from my kids. It makes me feel closer to you. My kids knew what it was right away. I never noticed it before but my Jimmy's wedding band kind of looks like yours. They both remembered you wearing it. That is the time that they remember best and actually it is the happy times that we all had together.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, December 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, he came home. So apparently he must be doing okay. He said that he was feeling weak which is not surprising since he has not been eating food. I am sure that it will take a while to get his strength back.
Mommy said that she went to the Senior luncheon. I am glad that she went. She said that she had a good time.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
So, he seems to be doing better because mommy said that they are going to try him on water today. I just noticed that yesterday I wrote and I must have messed up because it wasn' there. So hopefully he will start feeling better now.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, apparently he isn't doing too good. Mommy said after they gave him the water then he got sick again. They are thinking of transferring him to Temple. She said they are not doing anything there so maybe he would be better off in Temple. I'll let you know.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
Called mommy and Norma but neither one answered or called me back. So, I really don't know what is going on. I don't know if they tried to transfer him or if maybe he is doing better. Hopefully doing better. I'll let you know if anyone calls me. I sent him a card today but to Kennedy Hospital so I don't know if he will get it or not.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
Getting ready to go to Mass. Have to call mommy later and see how Jim is doing. Hopefully he will be feeling better. He must have had a lot of pain to go to the hospital. I know how that feels. I hope that this is not a recurring problem, I think he already has enough on his plate. Please stand by him and hold his hand. I know that you would be so upset seeing him sick. Let you know later how he is after I talk to mommy.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
Today is Erica's Sweet 16 party. Her birthday is Tuesday. Joani is on her way home now. Their flight is landing in about an hour. I have to call mommy in a little while and tell her what time I will pick her up. Thank God that the snow did not stick. It is all gone already. I was most concerned about Joani getting delayed and missing the party. I have Erica's 16 Growing Up Girl for her. They are musical. It's hard to believe that I already bought her and Gina 16 of these. I remember starting then when they turned 1.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, December 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
Home from the party and everything went great. Then, the phone rang and it was Norma. She said Jim was in the hospital and mommy had to come home to take care of Jen. I thought Jen was home alone but she was with Norma at the hospital. I was going to wait until we were on our way home to tell mommy but naturally Norma wanted to talk to mommy. You know mommy, she was so upset. I had to wait for her to calm down. I tried to tell her that she couldn't go and see Jen like this. She would scare her. So, I drove mommy to Normas and Norma was waiting for us. I left mommy off and told them to let me know how he was. They just called and said it was pancreatitis. Think that might be wrong spelling. I pulled it up on the web and it has something to do with the gallbladder too. He could have gallstones. Now mommy is going to the hospital to see him tonight. I am glad that she is getting to see him but it kind of stings too. Since I was just brought in through emergency and had an emergency gall bladder operation. I hope that all goes well and he gets better real soon. I read on WEBMD that you cannot drink after you have this. I don't know if Jim drinks much or not. Hopefully not. Mommy gave me your wedding ring from Freddie today. I have it on my chain.
Erica seemed to have a good time and she had a lot of friends there too. Hard to believe that she is 16 already. They are all growing up so fast. Life just flys by. too fast.!!1
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just came back from letting the dog out. We are going to decorate today. I have been putting it off all week. This is late for me. It is going to be difficult to do this year but I don't want the kids coming to a house that is not decorated. It seems too sad. It's like when I try to tell mommy that she should put up something for when Jen is at her house. They have those little trees that she could sit on her tv. I would think that it would make Jen sad to go there and there are no signs of Christmas. Norma should get her a little one piece tree, already decorated, to put on the tv and say it's from Jen and I think that she would put that up. That might be the only way that she would.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Kath,
We went to the cemetary yesterday. I put a plant on daddy's grave and a little santa. Hilda finally put the names on the stone. I guess now that her son is in there she wants his name on there. I was thinking of when you called me and said that you wanted all of us to go together for daddy. Now that can't ever happen. I have to see how to get to yours now. Maybe I can get my Jimmy to take us. I really don't want to drive there! I don't know if the stone is on yet, mommy never said.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
This has been a really, really hard day! Ijput up my tree and naturally it brought back the memory of you calling me and telling me to hurry up and order it on QVC. You knew that I was looking for a new tree and said that this was a really good deal. I also have decorations that I used that were gifts from you. I put a ball on the tree and then cried, and that's how I decorated today. This was one of the hardest things that I have had to deal with since you left us. Today is St Nicholas day so I am asking him to help me today. I keep remembering how much you always loved Christmas. I was hoping to have "our" nativity to put under my tree but so far Tom hasn't found it. It would really mean a lot to me to be able to have it. Please whisper in his ear and help him find it. I love you Kath,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, December 5, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani is in Florida. They left last night and called me when they got there. They had a quick flight and got there earlier than they were supposed to....and checked into their hotel before midnight. They sent me so text messages today and some pictures from Disney. I went over and fed the dog. She was a little down but after I sat with her and talked to her for about 35 minutes she calmed down and even ate. I'll go over tomorrow and let her out in the morning and then feed her later. It sounds like they are having a good time and I'm glad.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
When I talk to mommy I always forget to ask how your dog is. I was wondering how it was making out now without you. I know that you always said that Tom took it for walks and all. I was also wondering if she heard any more from Donna. Now that she lost Harry this will be a double hard year of holidays for her. Eileen has been calling mommy. She lost a son some time ago so she understands what mommy is going through. The kids will be so excited today, they packed last night. I don't blame them I would be excited too. One of the teachers that Tif had in grade school is adopting a baby from China. She never could have any children so I hope this works out for her.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
Spoke to mommy today. Getting her car fixed and still having problems with Norma. I don't understand why Norma can be so good to her but then they fight so bad. I don't understand Norma not having respect. Mommy does have a grandson her age. I would think that she would show a little more respect. Joani is leaving tomorrow. I'll feed the dog on Friday and Saturday. Hope they have a good time. Mommy is coming to the party on Sunday, my mother in law isn't coming, but I'm not really surprised.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, December 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
Gina was sick today so I stayed with her. Had to take the cat to the vet tonight. I won't be going back there again. Jinx was scared and when he sat him on the scale he tried to bite the vet. Naturally I wasn't surprised. He was protecting himself. Well, the vet got really annoyed and gave him the shots but didn't examine him. He told me that the next time he needed shots I should take him there early in the morning so that he could give him something so that he would sleep through the exam. Then I could pick him up later. Fat chance! I really don't think that Jinx is the first cat who has ever gotten scared and tried to protect himself. From now on I will take him to Bainfield for his shots. I wouldn't have taken him to that vet is he was sick anyway. I would take him to University of Penn. So no big loss.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Hi Kath,
Went to Sears yesterday and thankfully they fixed my glasses. I can't tell you how happy I was. I was wearing my old ones and they were giving me a headache and my vision wasn't really clear. We went to the movies today. Saw Four Christmas'. It was good, really cute. We ordered Chinese food after we came home. Finished my Christmas shopping last night. All but my kids, I give them money but sometimes I still buy them something too. The girls I am still not sure what I am doing, I have two ideas but I hope that the one I talked to Joani about works out.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Ended up not going to the movies. I think we might go today. Last night I was talking to Joani on the phone and my glasses broke. Just sitting there and the glass fell out. When I tried to see if I could put it back in I realized that the frame actually was broken. Have to go to Sears today and see if it can be repaired. Hopefully it can. Going to put some turkey in the freezer for another time since I have so much. Mommy said everything went ok for Thanksgiving but she thought Jen was acting strange. I am worried about her because mommy said she never talked about you since everything happened. I think she may have questions and maybe someone should try to let her get it out. Maybe that is why Jim is the way he is....who knows?
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, November 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
We had a really nice Thanksgiving. Both of the kids were thinking of you. We have this tradition where we go around the table and say what we are thankful for....Jimmy mentioned you. Joani ate with her inlaws and she said you were on her mind all day. I was thinking of how Tom would be eating with them, but you wouldn't. I hope that mommy was ok yesterday.
Today is black Friday. Joani is going to do the sales because you know she has 14 neices and nephews to buy for not counting her own kids. She tried to get some bargains on the gifts. We are going to the movies today. Tommy seems to be adjusting to being at Jimmy's. I was really glad to see that. I hope that you know how much you are missed.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Happy Thanksgiving Kathy,
This is a hard day for all of us. My kids have been thinking of you too because you know that all of their childhood memories involve you and for some reason on Thanksgiving I always think back to what used to be. The only consolation that I have is that you are celebrating with daddy today. I wonder what you feel when you look down at us. Do you feel bad that you left or are you so happy to be there that you are contented? I hope you are contented. I hope that you will be by mommy today. She is going to have a hard day. I worry about Jen too because I don't think that anyone has really talked to her about all that happened. I will have you in my heart all day today.
I made my turkey last night and it was done in the middle of the night like usual. I have already taken it all off of the bone and put it in freezer bags. My Joani came up with that idea. When I think of all of the containers I used to have and have to find places for I can't believe that we never thought of using the bags. I like to have it done so that if we want a sandwich tonight, everything is done. Have a wonderful day with daddy and let him know how much we have missed him all of these years.
Love to both of you,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
Justin was off today so I was over there. Joani came home by 3 so that I could get my baking done early. I made 30 Pumpkin muffins, a small pumpkin loaf, and 6 pumpkin pies. I am going to put the turkey in tonight like I always do. I am feeling blue tonight thinking about you. It is hard because I want to be happy but then I think of you and feel sad. Jimmy took Tommy to his house and he is doing good with the other cats. I am so glad because I felt so guilty about him being alone over there. Think of us because we will be thinking of you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
What a day yesterday was! We took Tommy and then the vet called Jimmy and said that Tommy has an infection. He has to be on Meds for 2 weeks. Jimmy is going to get them to trim his nails and then take him home to give him the meds. Maybe he will even lose a few pounds by then and that would make the operations safer. Talked to mommy and she told me this story about a puppy and Norma. I couldn't believe it! She really has nerve! I don't know, I think that that is elder abuse. But only mommy can stop that. I ended up changing Jinx's appointment until next monday so that Joani could work late on Monday and Tuesday. That will make it easier for me to do my pies on Wednesday night. You know I make pies for my kids. I love the food on Thanksgiving. I have my turkey in the sink with cold water trying to defrost it. I bought it on Sunday and it has been in the fridge since then but I want to cook it tomorrow night. Well, our first Thanksgiving without you. I am kind of upset that they asked Tom to eat there because I wonder if the invitation would have been extended to you. Always thinking of you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, November 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
Have to bring Tommy to the vet for Jimmy today. He's getting the declawing done today. Then he'll be going to live with Jimmy. I'm glad because I felt so sorry for him living alone over there. Just having someone come in and feed him and change the litter is not having a family. And my mother in law wouldn't even go and see him while she was here. This is the best thing for him. I was hoping that she would come back home but I think that ship has sailed. I really didn't want another cat either. And Jinx is not the type of cat to take kindly to having another cat brought in at this late stage. I have to take Jinx to the vet tonight for his shots too. The whole day will be vet day. Hopefully I won't have too much traffic today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, November 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just got home. We went to Church, and then got our turkey. Got a Lancaster Brand, 23.19 lb. Only had to pay 2.31 because I had qualified for the free turkey. You know I always like Lancaster brand if I can get it. We did some Christmas shopping. Got all of Justin's gifts. I know what I am doing for the girls but don't want to write it in case they write here. I still have to get Jen, mommy and my mother in law. I give my kids money. Ususlly try to pick up something small so that they have something to open from us. My mother in law started crying last night when we sang to her. She really doesn't look good at all. She has gotten so tiny it is unbelievable. She used to be 5'3" and she is way under 5' now. Her actual birthday is Monday and she will be 89. I know that you never wanted to live to get old and you know that I always did. I think of that sometimes. Hope that mommy gets through this holiday and naturally Christmas will be even worse for her.
Love,
j
jim posted a condolence
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy
Been thinking about things for a while now, really wish you would have called us last Mothers Day. That day started out so nice, we were all out for a nice brunch with my mom and mother in law. We had a really nice time and then when I received the call from my mother it was such a shock and I knew how it would affect her and all of us. Maybe if you had called my mom or something things would have been different, but I guess we will never know that answer. Shame that things came down to that. As Joani stated holidays always make me think about when I was a kid and all of the memories that we all shared together, I really wish those good, easy days existed again. I know that Thanksgiving was always a holiday that you really liked and so do I.
Pray for us all
Jimmy--------missing ya!!
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Everybody left and it is so quiet in here! My mother in law started crying when we put the candles on the cake and sang Happy Birthday. It is sad to see her looking so old and so tiny. I'm glad that I decided to do this today. Jimmy gave me an anniversary present today. It is a frame that has a Grandparents saying on it and it has a picture of all of the kids that was taken when we were all in Disney. It is really nice. I love anything that has the kids in it. Going to get our turkey tomorrow right after Mass. I am going to try to get some Christmas shopping done too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Having everybody over today for my mother in laws birthday. Thought about inviting mommy but didn't want to make her feel obligated to get a gift. I know she is trying to save to get her car fixed. If she would just come without a gift I would have invited her but I don't think that she would. We really wanted to do this for mommy too but she had something with Jim the day of her birthday and then I ended up in the hospital. The next Sunday when we had their party she was sick. So the time just seemed to pass and then it felt like it was too late. I have only been with mommy three times on her birthday in more than 20 years. You know that I always went to her house and gave her a gift but never to the actual birthday. The only ones were the party at Clam Tavern, one at Jim's old house on Browning Rd and one at his house in Blackwood. I believe you were the reason that I was there too. Miss you little sister.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, November 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
Would you believe it snowed this morning? Thank God it didn't land or accumulate. I am not ready for snow. We are having my mother in law over tomorrow and my kids and grandkids will all be here. It is her birthday on Monday and she will be 89! Hard to believe that when I met her she was only 43. You would have been very proud of Joani this week. She really is a good daughter. It's sad what happens to families with time. Remember when Jim was born and we were so excited. Where did the years go? Then when I had my son and daughter you were so proud to be an aunt. You were always the "cool" aunt. All of their childhood memories have you in them. Guess I'm feeling a little melancholy about when we were kids. Wish I could talk this whole week over with you.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Friday, November 21, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
I had a dream about you last night. It seemed so real. You didn't talk in the dream but you were so clear. You looked exactly like I remember you to look when I was younger. You kept smiling and laughing in the dream. I hope that you are that happy now. I am sorry you couldn't find that happiness here on earth but it's comforting to think that you have found true happiness now. I guess I had the dream about you because my mother and I have been talking about you so much this week. It's really hard with the holidays coming up. I keep thinking back to the holidays when I was a kid and you were so much a part of my life. It's so sad that we lost that but I accept that we cannot always control the choices people make. Please know that I never stopped loving you. It's so sad how our family turned out. It was so different before. I never imagined it would be like this.
Well, I have to get ready for work. Please watch over my mother. She could really use some peace this week.
Please also watch over my children, Jimmy's and Jennifer.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
It feels like winter is here. I can't believe that it is over 6 months already since we have actually talked. Sometimes mommy seems better but then she has so many bad days still. She will never get over this. I know that it has changed me too. I just wish that you would have called me that last day. I would have been so glad to have that memory of talking to you. Christmas is going to be hard for mommy and I'm sure that Thanksgiving is too. When daddy died that was the first holiday that we had without him and I'm sure she'll be thinking of him.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
I can't believe how cold it got. It actually was snowing yesterday when we picked Justin up after school. I sometimes wonder why people do the things that they do in this life. I guess they are unhappy and try to put that unhappiness on others. It's a shame. I would wish my family happiness if it was in my power to bestow but sadly that is not the case. Everyone has to make their own way in life and thankfully my kids and I have chosen a happy path. We have God in our lives and I think that is the beginning of happiness. Mommy has regained her belief and I think that is a help for her. Say a little prayer for our family and please tell daddy how much I miss him.
Thanks Kath,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just got home. Had a great time. Art and Dolores got us a beautiful ocean view room on the 38th floor. It was a beautiful view too. They took us to a breakfast buffet and then out to dinner later. We really had a great time. We always have so much fun when we are with them. We went out for breakfast yesterday at that place we had talked about years ago....Country Kitchen. They have the best pancakes. I think you had eaten there too. We went to Johnny Rockets last night. They play all the old music and it is like a 50's place. We came home early today because we are picking us Justin for lunch. We stopped at the Freeway Diner and had breakfast. I had so many emails when I came in it took me a while to go through then all. Thought of you while we were there....the shore always makes me think of you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, tomorrow is our 45th wedding anniversary. Can you believe that Jim and I have been married that long? We leave tomorrow morning for the shore. It's funny because we actually went to Atlantic City on our honeymoon. We did Mass tonight. We got the car inspected this morning and it was pouring. We had to go to the northeast and even going that way on 95 makes me think of you. I remember when we went to the house the day that you were moving in. We were all set to clean and the people had had the whole house cleaned and left that beautiful note. Little did we dream how our lives would turn out then. I thought that you and Fred would be together forever and be so happy in that house. I can't bear to even see or think or that house now. I would never want to go in there again. I won't be writing again until I get home because we are leaving early tomorrow, we're going to a breakfast buffet tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, November 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
Was talking to mom and asked her to ask Tom is he sees the manger set would he please bring it to her. I would like to have it because it was a part of our childhood. Remember daddy and me putting it under the tree and you looking at the picture to make sure we got it exactly the way it was on the box? When I think back to being a child you are a part of every memory. I was so excited when they told me that they were going to have another baby. I wanted a little sister and that's what I got. You were a beautiful and happy little baby. I was so proud of you and loved you so much. That never changed.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Friday, November 14, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello. Thank you for being by my mother's side through all her illness. She is doing much better now. This Sunday is their 45th Anniversary. Grandmom said there is some memorial service for all the people who were buried from your funeral home. I am glad that my mother choose not to go. I think she is a lot better off celebrating her anniversary on Sunday than going to that. She has enough sadness already. I don't think that would help her at all. I know I wouldn't want to relive it.
Artie and the girls go to the Father-Daughter dance tonight. I have some plans with Justin too so that he doesn't feel left out.
Please watch over everyone, especially the kids.
You are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
So everything went great yesterday. All of the problems that I have been having are normal. When we got in there I thought we were going to be there forever. The waiting room was jammed. Thankfully there were 5 different doctors seeing people. I saw my surgeon and he said that all was well. We went to the Hard Rock Cafe afterwards for dinner. We really enjoyed it and I am so glad that everything was normal. Now I am waiting for Sunday. Our 45th anniversary. Can you imagine that? We are going to be at Ballys for two nights. I can't wait.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Hi Kath,
Jimmy took Tommy to the vet last night to get his shots. Now he goes back on the 24th to be declawed and then after his recovery he will be living with Jimmy. I am glad because I felt awful about his being alone all of the time. Jimmy is going to try to get him to lose some weight. He is up to 25 lbs! That is way too much. I have to bring Jinx on the 24th for his shots too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Hi Kath,
I go to the surgeon tomorrow at 3:00. I will let you know what he says when I get home.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, November 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
It's getting colder now. I hope that we don't have any snow this year because the mayor said that they are not going to remove snow unless we get 12 inches on the little streets.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, November 9, 2008
You know Kath I was really upset and didn't know why tonight. Then I realized that watching that movie today is what did it. Queen Latifa's sister in the show died and I think I was just identifying with what happened. I didn't want to think about it but I guess you can't always will yourself to put things out of your mind. Please know that I think of you daily and you will always be my beloved little sister.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to the movies today. We saw The Secret Lives of Bees. It has Queen Latifa in it and I really like her. The movies was touching and really good. I think that you would have liked it. We were in the theater with only one other couple because we went to a really early show. We only paid $5 each. Tomorrow we have to go to the bank and to the Acme. I want to get the free turkey for Thanksgiving and I still have to spend almost $80.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
Jimmy came over to see Tommy today. He brought Linda and the girls. Hopefully Tommy will adjust quickly after he is declawed and get along with the other cats. It will be much better for him than being in there alone all day except for when Jim goes over and feeds him or changes his litter. I feel so sorry for him and this will make me happy too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, November 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
Had a bad night again last night. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever feel "normal" again. Everytime I hear someone say something about a sister it starts all over again.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
I think that I forgot to tell you about Tommy. My Jimmy is thinking of trying to get him declawed so that he can take him. That would be a much better situation than the way it is now. He has been alone for so long. Hopefully it will all work out.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
Sal asked us if anybody wanted any beds from my mother in laws house today. It sounds like she is thinking of selling it. It seems very sad to me to think of selling it. I spent so many hours there with both of them, especially when my kids were babies. It is going to be very hard to see anybody else in that house. I guess I don't have anything to do is but to get used to the idea. I am not good with change, but you know that. I have been looking at that house across the street for 45 years and I always knew that they were in there.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well the Democrats won. I wonder if you would have voted Republican like me if you were still here. I remember how surprised you were years ago when you first found out I was a republican. They changed the site again and I had a hard time getting in here. Seem to be getting better finally. Starting to feel more normal. Can't wait til I go back to the doctor next week.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
They changed the look of this site. It really looks different now. I am still running fever but hopefully that will go away soon. Went and voted today. We would have been discussing that too. Wish we could actually talk to one another. Think that Chip has been reading this to find out things about the family. Don't know why he is bothering.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, November 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
We had the party yesterday. Mommy ended up not coming. She wasn't feeling good. She was having trouble with her breathing. My mother in law came. She doesn't look good Kath. I am still having trouble with fever going up and down. I go back to the surgeon next Wednesday. This operation took more out of me than I expected. Janet said she thinks it's because of how sick I was when they finally did it. My appointment was last Friday and I never would have been able to get there with the parade so I am glad that it was all over before that.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
You know, everytime that I talk to my kids I wonder if things would have been different if you had had children. My daughter was there all week taking care of me and my son was there to take me home whatever time I was getting out. He wants to pick me up tomorrow so that I don't have to drive. If you had had some care and concern like that in your life maybe the outcome would have been so different. They are always there for me and I know that I can depend on them. You didn't have anything like that to turn to or to get well for. I wish that you could have remained close to us in the last few years but the choices that you made took us in different directions. I am glad that you knew that I never stopped loving you and you certainly made it clear to me in my Poem. I thank you for that every day. It gives me great peace and I kind of think that that might have been the reasoning behind your writing it for me.
Love you little sister,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
Please give my Spooky a special kiss and hug from me. We lost him 7 years ago today. It is still with me. He was so special.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went and got all of the kids Phillies shirts. Got some for the girls Joani & Linda but we forgot to get something for Jimmy and Artie. We didn't want to go back to the store after we got home so I'm sure that they will understand. I bought a new thermometer because I am still running fever and I wanted to make sure that the thermometer was working right. It was because I still have fever with the new one too. Hopefully it will go away soon. We're having the party tomorrow and mommy and Jim's mother are both supposed to be coming. We'll see....
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, October 31, 2008
Hi Kath,
Watching the Phillies parade. I'm sure we would have been talking today. You would have been even more excited than I am because you were watching them all year long. Today is also Halloween so hopefully things will calm down tonight. We're having the birthday on Sunday. I mentioned it to mommy but she didn't seem to say anything about coming so I didn't push the issue either. I didn't say anything to my mother in law because last week when she was supposed to come she ended up getting sick. You know how I told her you about her problems. I am doing better. I just don't have a lot of patients with being a patient. God bless my daughter. She was here every day this week taking care of me. I feel so bad because she ended up using her time that she was saving for Disney. I would have done anything to have avoided that. I don't know what I would do without her! God granted me my own special angel when he gave her to me. My son is good to me too but sometimes it takes a daughter to do the things that a mother needs. I know that it is hard for you to understand that, not having children. My son does things in other ways for me too. I have been very lucky in life so I really shouldn't complain about what is actually a minor illness. Just the pain was major this weekend!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Hi Kath,
THEY WON! I actually watched it last night and both my husband and I were thinking of you all night. You would have been so excited. You should have heard Justin last night! He was so excited. Artie is going to take him to the parade to see the players tomorrow. Joani is going to work. Justin is off school and they actually gave the girls off because they are so close to the parade route. I am doing a little better today. Justin was St Michael the Archangel in a school think today. He did so good and looked so great. I have decided that I am not going to be sick any more! I am done with being sick! I am just going to ignore any more feeling sick and try to just go on from here. We are having the birthday on Sunday. I still didn't give my son or mommy their birthday gifts. I will try to take care of that this weekend.
I am looking forward to going on from here. Our anniversary and Thanksgiving are both coming up so things are going to start looking up from now on.
Miss you and love you,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Well I guess you must be celebrating. The Phillies won the World Series. How I wish you could have been here to see this. They are planning a big parade for Friday. Keep watching.
Please help my mother to heal.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Had to call the surgeon yesterday. My temperature was up again and I was really hurting. I took the bandaids off and then tried to take the bandage off of my bellybutton. Oh, was that fun! I got the top part off and thn there was this large wad of gauze actually stuck in my bellybutton. I didn't know how to get it out. I called the doctor's office and had to wait for him to call back. He said that I could take it out. It took quite a while to loosen it and finally get it out. It really hurt! Now I am starting to feel a little better. The fever is down a little, at least it is under 100 now. I am hoping that I feel a lot better tomorrow because Justin is in that thing at church and I really would like to go and see it. He is going to be St Michael the Archangel. Didn't hear from mommy today. I called her yesterday so I kind of thought maybe she would call me. I always call her back right away so she doesn't have to pay for the call.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Monday, October 27, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
I really, really missed you this weekend. We had to rush my mother to the hospital this weekend to have her gallbladder removed. She was in such pain all night Friday into Saturday. We finally took her to the hospital at 5:30. They kept her and took her gallbladder out on Sunday emergently. Thank God, they were able to do it laparscopically so she was able to come home last night. I know you were with her, helping her get through it. Please continue to be by her side and help her to recover. I really missed being able to talk to you this weekend. I know you would have been the first person I called after I left the hospital.
Yesterday was Grandmom's birthday too. I called her to tell her about my mother and she said she had been thinking of you all morning. Please help to bring her some peace too.
By the way, the Phillies won the last two games. One more and they win the World Series. I know you would have been so excited about that.
Please watch over all of us, especially my mother. Help her to heal. Please protect the kids too.
Loving and missing you,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, October 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
You would not believe the weekend that I had. I was in so much pain on Saturday I couldn't believe it. I have never felt that sick before. I suffered from 1:30 am Saturday until 5;30pm when I finally went to the emergency ward. They actually took me right in even before other people who were already there. I think that they could see just how much pain I was in....and then even morphine didn't take the pain away. Kath, I felt like I was dying. They worked on me until midnight when they finally found something that helped with the pain. Then, they took me in to operate under emergency conditions. I can't tell you how happy I was that they did it. I actually got to go home the same night and got to sleep in my own bed last night. I am still very sore and tired. I have been running a fever off and on but they said that is normal. Last night I think that I had a high fever because I leaned against my husband and was so hot that I woke him up. Hopefully it will just get a little better each day now and then I can feel normal again.
I thought of you as I was going into the operating room and said a little prayer that you would be with me.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, October 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well they lost last night. I was glad that they at least won the first one away.
I got my stitches out this morning. It doesn't look great but he said that it takes time to completely heal. I go back in March and he will check it then. If it doesn't look great he will do something with a lazer to make it look better.
Today is my husband and my son's birthday. We are having something on Sunday after we go to the pumpkin patch.
Love,
Joan
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Hey Kath,
They WON! I am really excited for you! I feel like watching them is a link for us. I know how much you would be enjoying this. And I don't have the pain today. I actually slept through the night last night. Tomorrow I get the stitches out so that will be done at least. Say a little prayer that they don't hurt, you know I don't like anything to do with stitches. Say a prayer for the Phillies too.
Love
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to let you know that the Phillies won the first game of the World Series. Wish you were here to enjoy it.
Please watch over my mother with all of her illness.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
What a night I had last night! The gallbladder wants me to know that I cannot forget about it. I was in pain all night. I don't think that I got three hours of sleep all night. I can't wait until I go to the doctor. I wish that I didn't have to wait until the 31st. I hope that he can schedule me right away. I am feeling a little better this morning but still not like myself. The first game of the World Series is tonight. I know that you would have been watching.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
Today is "Sister Day". I really wish you were here to celebrate with today. Frani sent me a cute email which helped to make this day a little more bearable. I am sending you a prayer, a hug and a kiss. Please send them back to me too.
Love, your big sister always
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, October 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
We are having the birthday for my husband and son on Sunday which just happens to be mommy's birthday. I invited her but naturally she is waiting to see if she can have something with Jen. Just one time I would like to see her say "I really should do some holiday or birthday with my daughter and other grandchildren and great grandchildren." I know that it will never happen but it would be nice. I really miss having you to talk to Kath, and having someone on my side. You always made sure that we were included when they included you. Wish you were here.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
It wasn't as bad to change the bandage as I thought it would be. I was even able to wash my hair! Jimmy came over today and now the piece in my shower is fixed. I am so glad, it was really a pain when the tub would fill up while taking a shower. I'm going to make soup tomorrow, it's supposed to be cool so that will taste good.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Doesn't feel too bad this morning. The tylenol really helped. I know, you would have been yelling at me for not getting a prescription for pain killers. You know that I don't like to take anything. I have to change the bandage today. I also have to figure out a way to wash my hair without wetting my nose. You know I am not going to go one day without washing my hair. Well, say a little prayer that it heals well and doesn't look too bad.
Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Friday, October 17, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
My mother just left for her surgery. Please help her to be okay. I will let you know when everything is done.
Love,
Joani
J
Joani posted a condolence
Friday, October 17, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
If you were still here, I would have been calling you now to tell you that everything went okay with my mother. They had to take two scrapings but everything, Thank God, turned out okay. Thanks for your prayers. I miss you.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, October 17, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, everything turned out ok. Am in pain but that is to be expected. Haven't really seen it yet. I guess I will have to look at it tomorrow when I change the dressing. Took two times to get it all and the worse part was the needles. They really hurt! Have to go back next week on my husband and son's birthday. They will take the stitches out them. Called mommy to let her know that everything was ok and she actually didn't know what I was talking about. She had "forgotten" that I was having it done. Then when I said how I hate getting stitches she said yes Jimmy had to get then when he fell off of the couch. That was only about 40 years ago! But you understand that it is always about Him. I hope that I can sleep tonight because I have a pressure bandage on and it is really uncomfortable. Thanks for your prayers, I know that you were there for me, you always were.
Your big sister,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Grandmom told us that you were really into the Phillies the last couple of years. Well I guess you must have been smiling last night because the Phillies won and they are now in the World Series. My mother told you about the pep rally at Justin's school. I was able to go with him. The kids were so excited. It was so nice to see them so happy at school. Even the teachers and the principal were thrilled. I was so glad I was able to be there. We let Justin stay up to watch the whole game last night. He was jumping up and down in his bed screaming when they won. All my neighbors were outside yelling. It was really neat. Justin is so into it this year. All the kids at school talk about it so that is what started him.
Put in a good word for them for the World Series.
I am sorry that you were not able to be here to see this. Maybe this could have brought some joy into your life.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
You would have been so excited! The Phillies won! I am so sorry that you did not wait to see this. I actually watched it for you last night. I know how much you would have been celebrating and I just felt like I had to do it for you. They really did so well. They really look like this is their year. The kids are so excited. Justin stayed up to see the whole game. He is going to be tired today because he got up early yesterday because he had the rally. I have to go for the skin cancer surgery tomorrow at 7:30 am. Please say a little prayer and whisper to Our Blessed Mother that everything goes ok.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well it's 9 pm and I get the surgery tomorrow morning. Say a little prayer that everything goes ok. Tell daddy that I miss him too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
Justin's school was on channel 29 this morning. Jen Phredricks came for their Phillies Rally. I taped it. It was really cute. We had just been saying last week that they should come to St. Monicas. He was so excited. I was actually able to see him because his Phillies hat is black and has a Batman insigna around the Phillie sign. The whole school was there and they really had fun. He will probably still be really hyper at lunch. I'm glad that they had such a good time because it is something that they will always remember.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
Now I know why you were always fighting with Norma. After hearing how she speaks to mommy I wanted to do what you always did. But I think that it would not be appreciated. You were always wrong so I am not falling into the same trap. No, she shouldn't speak to mommy that way but then mommy shouldn't allow it to happen either. I know that if I say something it will end up that I upset Jim. And you know that neither of us ever held a candle to Jim. Norma should be ashamed of herself and I will never feel the same toward her again. Wish that I had listened to you more when you used to tell me how mad she made you. I can certainly see your point now. Sorry Kath.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, October 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
We would have been talking today! Can you believe that 38 years have passed? How strange that this year you are with daddy. He must be happy to see you and have you there but I know him well enough to know that he would have been alone again to spare mommy this sorrow. His way was to always put mommy first. Even before himself. Please give daddy a hug and a kiss for me today. Tell him how much we have missed him all of these years. Please ask him and you too to pray for me with all of the health problems that I am dealing with right now. Love to both of you today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to the Columbus Day parade but it was so crowded that we didn't eat there. We came home and ordered from City Pizza. Jimmy, Linda and the kids were here too. Joani was standing for Robbie's baby at the Baptism today. I got a McKain/Palin sign while I was there. I am trying to keep upbeat about all of the things that I have to have done.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2008
Hi Kath,
First time that I am writing on the anniversary. Five months have passed already. I messed up about the operation. I am going for an appointment on the 31st and then he will decide when to do the operation. Joani said that if needed Justin could eat lunch in school for a week when I have that done. Hopefully it won't be necessary. My husband will still be able to get him after school. I am not going to schedule it for my anniversary week. I want to still be able to go to the casino for the days that Art and Dolores got us. Maybe he will be able to do it the following week after my appointment. That would still give me a week to recoup. I thought of you all day yesterday. I remembered your wedding day, you getting the bloody nose, taking pictures in my parlor and my husband losing his tie. We certainly had no idea of what was ahead of us did we? Love to my baby sister,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Today is five months since you left us. It already seems so long ago but yet it still feels like yesterday too.
I know my mother has been telling you about all the health problems she has been having. Please watch over her and give her the strength to get through this. At least she has you and Grandpop now to put in a good word for her.
You would be happy to know that Grandmom and my mother have gotten much closer since your death. My mother tries to call her everyday because she knows that is what you did. I try to look at some good things that may have come from this.
We took the kids to Disney World last weekend. We surprised them and woke them up at 3:30 in the morning and told them. They were so excited. We had such a good time. Doing things like that with my family are so precious to me and I wonder if you had had children if things in your life would have been different.
Tomorrow is my nephew Robbie's Baptism. I think I already told you that I am going to be his Godmother. His mother picked out his outfit but I got him a Baptism blanket with his name and birth date and baptism date on it. I have to pick out his shoes today too. I also got him his first Mickey Mouse outfit from Disney World so he can get changed before his party.
Well rest well and know that we all miss you very much.
Please keep watching over my mother with her health issues.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
We would have definitely talked today. It would have been your anniversary. Hard to believe that it is 38 years since you and Freddy got married. It seems like just yesterday and in some ways it seems like so long ago. We were so innocent then. We still hadn't lost daddy. We didn't realize what life was going to bring us did we? If I think back I realize how very innocent I was. I never realized how many things we would have to deal with in the past 38 years. Daddy dying, mommy remarrying so quickly, you and Freddie breaking up, the riff with me and mommy and the break up of our whole family and finally the terrible event on Mothers Day. I guess it's better when you don't know the future. There were good events in my life. The kids getting married, my grandchildren being born and all that went with having grandchildren. The wonderful vacations that we have had and the great love in our family. I am so sorry that you couldn't find that in your life. I wish it could have been different for you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Hi Kath,
Saw Dr Baldino today. He gave me the referral for the xray. Getting that done tomorrow. Then I can schedule the shot. I can't wait til that is done. He also gave me a complete script for the antibiotic that I need, not dribbling them out a little at a time. They are so much cheaper this way. He said not to worry about the gall bladder operation, it is so much easier today than when mommy had it. I should be going home the same day. He also knows my doctor, Dr Greenbaum, who is taking care of the cancer. He couldn't believe that I got the appointment so quickly. So I am all set now except for Dr Miller and I will set that up as soon as I get the results from the xray. I am beginning to see a little light at the end of this tunnel that I have been in all of this time.
Love,
Your big sister,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
I have been so depressed I haven't written. I do have gallstones and I do have to get the operation. Apparently whoever I spoke to on Friday read the reports on the blood work and said that everything was ok. I just heard yesterday that I now have to get it done.
Monday we went to see Art & Dolores and had such a good time and I told them how glad I was that I didn't have to get the operation. Well, I guess I just have to deal with it.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani and Artie and the kids are home. They had a great time. We are going to Jimmy's for Linda's birthday. I am still having the pain from the sciatica. I guess if it keeps up I will have to get the shot again. We want to go to Margate tomorrow to see Art & Dolores. Artie is going to be home and Joani is picking up Justin so we can go. I also have to change my coffeemaker. I just bought it and it stopped working. I am so annoyed. Say a little prayer that the pain in my leg goes away.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani and Artie took the kids to Disney for the weekend! They are taking them to the Disney Halloween Party. They get to dress up and trick or treat in the magic kingdom and they will have a ball. They didn't know that they were going. Joani woke them up at 3:30 this morning and told them. They had a 6:30 flight and they are in Florida already. Gina text messaged me. I just talked to Joani and they are almost to the hotel. They are coming home tomorrow. Today is Linda's birthday and they are having something tomorrow. I am still having the pain from the sciatica but I am trying to go on as tho it is not there. IF it keeps up I will have the cortizone shot again. That really helped before. I haven't had this pain for years now and because of the stupid tests that I had it started it up again.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, October 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
I just noticed that for the second time something that I wrote was not put in the system. I got the news about the ultrasound and it was good. He said that everything looks good so it must have been indigestion. If I have any more pain then we will have to reevaluate it. The only thing is that it started my sciatica up again. I hope that this goes away quickly.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Hi Kath,
I'm going to try to get the results from the ultrasound today. I figured if I call today it still gives me another day this week for them to get the results. Linda's birthday is this Saturday so we will be going to Jimmy's to celebrate with them. Let you know what and if I find anything out.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
I actually got good news. He was just looking for iron deficency. The first tests showed anemia but the more intensive tests show that it is on the low side of normal but still normal. Now if I just get good news on the ultrasound I'll be okay. From all of the probing, my sciatica has started up. I am hoping that that will subside too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Hi Kath,
Too early to call the doctor yet. My mother in law is going home today. Well, actually back to Sal's. She doesn't want to go home anymore. I tried to get her to tell me what is bothering her but she really wouldn't say much about it. I think she enjoyed her time here so that's good. It's just hard having someone live in your house who is like having a baby. She doesn't want to be left alone so the only times that we went out together was church and picking up Justin. Let you know if I hear anything from the doctor.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, September 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
So mommy came to dinner yesterday after all. My Jimmy picked her up and I think that was the best thing that she could have done. Getting away from the problems and talking to other people did her good.
I went for my ultrasound today. Still don't have any answers on the bloodwork. Called the doctor and they said that some of it is still pending. Whatever that means! I am sore from the ultrasound and I had to raise my arms above my head and that is when my shoulder hurts so mow it is aching. Hopefully I will have some news on the blood tomorrow. Wish I could talk to you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
Called mommy and asked her to come over for dinner. She isn't coming because they are havint trouble. Apparently Jim & Norma are having problems. When I called my son to tell him he didn't have to pick her up he said she really should get out of there for a while. I can understand how she feels....she is worried about Jen. I didn't even tell her about my blood problems either.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
I was reading over the papers that the Methodist sent me last night and now I am not sure where I have to go on Monday. I thought that I just had to report to the hospital for the ultrasound but now I see that they do them at the old St Agnes building. I will have to call them and see where I actually have to go. I don't have to be there until 10 so I can call in the morning before I leave. Hopefully everything is resolved at Joani's. My mother in law is still here. I have been corresponding with Frani by email. It is strange but you brought us back together. You also made me try to see mommy more often. I know that is what you wanted to happen so I am honoring your wishes.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
I just wanted to let you know that I have been thinking about you so much. It still seems unreal that you are really gone. I just keep thinking Why? Why didn't you know how much everyone loved you? Why didn't you call someone that day? Why did you let your anger at him come to this? Why didn't you reach out to one of us? Why didn't you think about how everyone else who was left behind would feel? Why weren't you calling any of us much anymore?
But, of course, it's too late for ALL of that now. I keep trying to remember the last conversation I had with you and I cannot remember it. It's driving me crazy. I know that it doesn't really matter anyway. Nothing can change anything now.
I hope that you are at peace now and you found whatever it is you were looking for and this life couldn't offer to you.
I have been having a really rough week. I think Artie finally cleared up the problem we were having. I am praying to God that he did. I am also very worried about my mother. She has so many things going on with her health right now. I know, too, that she is always thinking about you and missing you.
I really do hope that you found peace now. Please send a little peace down here for us too!
Loving and missing you everyday!
Love,
JOani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, September 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
Didn't get any news yet. Had to call the primary doctor yesterday for a prescription for an antibiotic for the cancer removal. I had almost forgotten that I have to be on antibiotics whenever I have anything cut on my body. It was in the papers that the specialist sent to me. Have to get that today so I will be all ready to get that done on the 17th. Well, I might call mommy and see if she wants to come over tomorrow since I have my mother in law here.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
Haven't been having such good days. Got a call from the doctor about my bloodwork and he wants me to repeat a lot of it and he added more too. Tells me it is just routine but I don't think that is the truth. Never had to repeat bloodwork for routine reasons before. Went yesterday so I probably won't find anything out until Monday. Have to go for the other test on my stomach on Monday. My mother in law is here with us until Tuesday. She got here on Tuesday. That's another story. Talk to you soon,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, September 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to a party for Robbie yesterday. It was a beautiful day and we really had a great time. Joani couldn't come because Tif didn't feel good. We got to see the new baby, Robbie, too. Joani is going to stand for him when he gets baptized. I imagine that will be soon. My mother in law is going to be with me for a week starting tomorrow. We went to the store the other night and got in some things that she likes to eat. So, I guess I'll talk to you later.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
Think that my Jimmy is coming over today. My mirror fell off of the bathroom door and he is going to put the new one up for us. My mother in law is going to be with me for a week. Sal and Marie are going away for their anniversary and they really need a break. She has a lot to deal with between her mother, work and my mother in law. She deals with sick people all day and all night. I really feel sorry for her. I know it has to be taking a toll on her.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, September 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
I got the call from my skin doctor and it is cancer again. I have to go to the specialist on Friday Oct 17th to have it removed. It is kind of scary because I don't know how much has to come off and it is on the bridge of my nose. The one good thing is that this doctor is a plastic surgeon so if I need some work afterward he will be able to do it. I really miss you right now Kath.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, I have a problem with my rotator cuff. That is why my arm and shoulder are hurting. I have to do exercises, ice it and take medecine. Now today I get to go and get blood tests. He is checking for the gall bladder too. I have to have an ultrasound to make sure that the gall bladder is working right. The blood tests are to check everything since I haven't had any blood work for quite some time. Hopefully every thing will be ok. Say a little prayer for me today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, I am getting ready to go to the doctor. I am hoping that he isn't going to find anything really bad wrong. I am wondering if I could have an ulcer. I hope it is something that can be treated with medecine. I am really not in the mood for having an operation. I'll let you know when I know.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
I go yo the doctor tomorrow. I am hoping that he can do semething for the pain in my arm. I am having so much trouble sleeping and raising my arm.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Monday, September 15, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
I thought about you all night last night. I kept waking up and feeling like you were trying to tell me something. I wish I could figure out what it was.
I guess Grandpop must be happy to celebrate his birthday with you this year. Tell him we all wish him a happy birthday.
My cousin Tracy lost her dog Tess on Friday. Tracy is such a dog lover and I imagine her heart must be broken. Please see if you see Tess for her and make sure she is okay. We both know the pain of losing your dog. I think about my Spudsy and Spooky all the time.
Well I just wanted to say hello and I wish you could help me to figure out what you were trying to say.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, September 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well this is the first time that you will be with daddy on his birthday. I'm sure you must be so happy and he is too. Tell him how much he is missed. It has been so many years since we were with him. Last year was the first time that we didn't talk on his birthday and today I was thinking of all the different things that you did in this last year. I wonder if you were trying to prepare me for being without you. You always called me for my birthday and last year we didn't talk. I called you and never got you. We didn't talk on the anniversary of daddy's death. It just seems strange in retrospect that all those things were different in just this last year. You knew that I looked forward to talking to you on those days that were important to us as sisters and I wonder if you were trying to distance yourself to prepare me. I think of you often and daddy too. I pray for you and always offer my Masses for both of you. Kiss daddy for me Kath, it's been 38 years since I've been able to do that.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well you must be looking down and smiling. Had mommy and my mother in law over today. I picked them up about 12 and they had lunch with us. Jimmy, Linda, Erica and Alexa came over and saw them and then Jimmy said they would stay for dinner too. Joani stopped over with Artie, Gina, Tif & Justin and they even brought the dog. Joani didn't stay for dinner but she came to see them. I had make the Italian Wedding Soup so we ordered 2 pizzas so we would have enough and everybody seemed to really enjoy it. I gave mommy a copy of the poem too. I guess it was a good day. Wish you could have been here.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, September 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
Didn't feel up to writing yesterday. They took something off of my nose and now I wait for the biopsy and if it's cancer I have to go back to the specialist in town that I used for the one on my forehead. I am hoping that it's not anything. The needle hurt more than anything. Getting a needle in the nose is not fun. I feel strange not having you to call and talk about this. You always called me when I came back from the skin doctor. Pray for me Kath.
Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Today is four months since you left us. It seems so long to me. I think about you often and miss you a lot. I hope that you are at peace now.
Please help my mother, Uncle Jimmy and Grandmom get through this day.
Watch over all of us, especially the kids.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
I think that we are going to have mommy and Jim's mother over for dinner on Saturday. I haven't talked to her about it yet. I am going to make the Italian wedding soup. I love it and it will be something easy to do ahead of time and still have time to pick them both up. I would like to make some pumpkin muffins too. I know that Gina is hoping I make them and make a lot! She loves them. I have been waiting for it to get a little bit cooler to bake.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
It's late and I'm missing you. I have to go to the skin doctor again tomorrow. I am hoping that he doesn't find anymore skin cancer. I usually called you on the day before I went and then called you afterward. I changed my primary doctor. I tried to get an appointment with her Dr Bralow and I would actually have to wait almost two weeks! I want to have the pain that I have been getting checked out. I think it is my gall bladder but I am not sure. I am afraid it could be my heart. I think of all of the people who died in daddy's family from heart disease. I want to make sure that I am ok. I don't want anything to happen to me. It is so strange how much I want to live and how you felt. I guess that's why I never could understand how you felt. Please say a little prayer to Our Lady that I am ok. Give daddy and my Spooky a kiss for me and tell them that I really miss them.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Hi Kath,
My granddaughter Erica got a dogtag like the one that I got mommy. She got one of the Jonas brothers on it. She reminds me of you when the Beatles were popular. You were crazy about them. I remember one time that they were on and mommy and daddy made you come to my house because they wanted to see my Jimmy. You didn't think that we were going to watch them on TV but naturally we let you watch them. I keep hearing Rod Stewart and that makes me think of you too. Even my kids were saying how every time that they hear him it makes them think of you. Joani even thought that we should have buried you in jeans because that is what you always wore.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, September 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to a store near my Jimmy's yesterday and bought spiced beef. Remember how we used to love that? I got the bagels and cream cheese too. I will be having it for dinner tonight. It always brings me back to being a kid when I eat that. I always thought that mommy's mother was the one who started us on that but it was daddy's mother. It also makes me think of you, but almost everything does.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
I am wondering what you would think of the Republican party now that they have a woman running. I know that you liked Hillary and since she didn't get the nod who would you vote for? I don't know who I am voting for myself but you know that I favor the Republicans. I can still remember how upset you were when you found out that I was a Republican. I think it is funny because I always vote for who I like, not by party. You still thought the way that grandpop used to....Democrates for the poor and Republicans for the rich. I consider myself middle class so where does that leave me? Just fun thinking of all of our discussions.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
I have been having so much pain. I was talking to mommy and I think that it might be my gall bladder. I wish that I could just go to the hospital and get them to take it out without all of the testing leading up to it. This will involve a doctor visit, then a specialist visit, then tests, then wait and then back to the specialist and then they will take it out. I would like to cut all of that part out. Guess I'll have to see if I still have trouble. It is better now.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, September 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
Justin went back today and so did Jimmy's kids so all of them are in school now. It seems like it came really fast. We have been looking at all the cell phone services to pick a new one. I want to get pictures so I can send and receive from my phone.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
Tif went back to school today. She starts high school! I can't believe that all of the girls are in high school now. I'm glad that we still have Justin to have at least one little one left. It seems like just yesterday that Gina was born!
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, the summer is really over. The kids start back to school tomorrow. It seems like this summer really flew. In the beginning it seemed slow because we were waiting to go to Disney. After that it seemed to go a lot faster. We actually had a nice summer. We had a lot of fun in Disney and then we were at the shore a few times this summer. It just seems hard not being able to actually talk to you about it. I heard that Donna is not well. Mommy said that Tom told her she is sick. I will say a prayer for her.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, September 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
We closed Jimmy's pool yesterday. It was a shame this year, his water turned green and he never was really able to clean it up. Next year he is getting a new liner and he is going to put all new water in to start fresh. Joani and Artie came with the kids too. It was a nice day. I'm not sure what we are going to do today. I really don't want to go over the bridge and then have to fight the traffic coming home on Labor Day. My husband wanted to ask mommy and his mother to come over but that involves going all the way down the Black Horse Pike to bring his mother home. Sals I said maybe another time. It shouldn't be as bad going and coming from Jersey now that the summer is done. The kids start back to school on Wednesday. This was a fast summer.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, August 30, 2008
Hi Kath,
Never did hear from Chip again. I guess that is a chapter better left closed. We were just curious as to how he heard.
Talked to Frani. When she was little I remember her being real sick and being in the hospital and I asked mommy about it. She had absolutely no memory of it. So I asked Frani. She remembered. She was in for high fever and she had her tonsils out. She was so sick that they operated while her fever was high. She could have died. I couldn't believe that mommy didn't remember that. You said that she was forgetting things.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, August 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani had to go to the doctor today from the accident that she had when the cab was hit. I hope that everything goes ok for her. She still has pain in her back.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
I was talking to mommy this morning and she was upset about the holidays. It is hard to think about celebrating Thanksgiving and Christmas and you not being there.
I tried to talk to her about how it was when I wasn't seeing the family. I had always gone to her house for the holidays and suddenly we weren't part of the family anymore. We had to develope our own things for the holidays. The first one was strange but then we managed to start our own traditions. Once my kids got married and I got the grandchildren the holidays just evolved. I told her that she will make the holidays for Jen. She also has to realize that we didn't decide for things to be like this. We have to just go on from here. She is feeling a little left out from Aunt Pat too. I guess she got used to having her there a lot and things are different now that Aunt Pat has Joe. But mommy has to realize how hard it was for us when she brought Bud home. It broke our hearts but we tried for Jimmy because he was still a child. I miss having you to talk with about all of these things. I miss you every day!
Love,
I t
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
Gina has to go to school today. She is going to be there the first day to help the Freshmen on their first day. She has to be there from 9 to 12 today. I think I will pick her up.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
The girls had to go to Hallahan today to help one of the teachers with something. I can hardly believe that the summer is almost over. They go back to school next week. It's hard to believe that I haven't been able to talk to you for over 3 months! This website is really a Godsend for me. I don't know what I would have done without it. Love you little sister,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, August 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy wants me to give her a copy of the poem. It's in a frame so I'll have to take it out to copy it. I don't think the copy will work too well through the glass. I don't like to handle it too much. I felt like putting it in the frame would preserve it. I'll have to get her a nice frame for it too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
Had a nice time yesterday. We went to Ventura's Off Shore to eat and then to Ocean City to walk the boards. Met up with Joani there. She had a birthday party at the water park for Joseph's little girl. We didn't get home til about 9:30.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
We're going to the shore again today. We're going to Ocean City with Jimmy. He got a large vehicle so that we can all fit. He is taking Linda's parents too. Paul has been asking to go all summer but he really hasn't been well enough so it really is kind of the end of the season now so he wants to try to get him there.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, August 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well yesterday I did it. I got off of here and picked up the phone to call you. I used to do that all the time after daddy died. I have thought of calling you for things a million times but always remembered before I actually picked up the phone. It was a really weird moment. I felt like screaming because it brought it all back again. It was like the other night, I was watching tv and the girl said that "she really felt like she had her sister again." Things like that really hit me hard. I guess the only good thing is that I know that you will never have this empty feeling when you hear the word "sister". I try to make all of my grandchildren know how important their siblings are to them. I know the pain that I am feeling and I hate for them to have to go through this some day in the far off future.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
I am really curious as to how Chip found out. He gave mommy some story about putting Jim and Norma's name in Google and it came up. I tried it and couldn't get that. It was not published so I don't know how he could possibly have found it. I think he must have spoken to someone who told him but why he didn't say that I don't know.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
I just wanted to stop by and say hello and tell you that I have been thinking a lot about you lately. We went to get the girls' uniforms for school on Saturday and we were in the Northeast. We were right around the corner from your street. It seems so weird to think that you are not there anymore. When Jimmy lived in the Northeast and we used to go to his house, I always thought of you when we drove by but it seemed so sad now passing there. We passed your Church too. I was remembering when you stood for me for confirmation and needed the letter and it was such a bad snow storm and Bobby drove the letter down to us. His wipers had broken and he had his hand out the window wiping the snow off as he drove.
I told you about my new nephew last week. We had a shower for my sister-in-law on Sunday and she asked me to be Robbie's godmother. I am really excited. It's funny, I am the godmother for all of my nephews. Roxanne did not plan the Baptism yet but I will have to get my letter so that I can stand for him.
Well, I have to get ready for work now. Rest peacefully. Please watch over all of us, especially the kids. Please bring some peace to my mother. She really needs it. She misses you so much.
Love,
Your Niece,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
I saw that Chip wrote. I have no bad feelings toward him and I hope he finds peace now.
I broke my coffee carafe yesterday. Then I had to go out for a new coffeemaker last night. You know how I hate to change things. I got a really nice one.
Love,
C
Chip posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Kathy im sorry for everything bad that happened between us, i wish it could have been different and now its too late. Rest peacefully
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, August 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
The girls had to go to Hallahan to get their rosters today. They don't have lunch together but I think that might actually be a good thing. If Tif gets used to having Gina she won't make as many friends as she would otherwise. This way she'll have her own friends and she'll do fine. She got two languages Kath, remember how we hated that. She has Latin and Spanish. They are not offering French any more to Freshman. Gina has her third year of French. They both have hard rosters, lots of Honors and AP classes. They'll do fine tho.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Hi Kath,
Went to early mass today. Then we went to the movies and dinner today. Went to a new restaurant and it was really good. Jimmy is still away and Joani went to Margate for a little shower for the new baby. His name is Robert Domenick and we'll probably call him Robbie like his dad.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
Jimmy and his family are in Wildwood this weekend. He said that the weather is really nice. I got my frames today. I put the poem in a black frame and I got a wood frame for the 16 x 20 picture that we took in Florida. It really looks nice. I moved Jinx's picture next to Spooky's. I have the large one over the fireplace. It really looks nice. We're going to the movies tomorrow and we'll go out to ear.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
My sister-in-law Roxanne had her baby yesterday. It is a boy. We went to see him last night and he is so adorable. He's so good too, we all held him and he just looks up into your face as you talk to him. Gina said something to him and it looked like he smiled at her. They named him Robert after his father. Rob and Roxanne already had three girls so the kids are so excited that they have a little brother now. Justin was telling him all about boy toys last night and all the things he is going to teach him about. It was really cute. He is very excited to have another boy in the family.
Rest peacefully and please watch over all of us, especially the children. Please watch over my new little nephew too.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
I forgot to tell you yesterday that mommy sent Justin a card for his birthday and wrote it out to "Michael". I think it was because we were talking about cousin Michael and it would have been Michael's birthday on the 12th. You should see the picture of the new baby. He is so cute. He looks like one of their girls and they are all so pretty. Robert and Roxanne must be so happy. The kids were all excited. I am going to get him something this weekend.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
Artie's brother's wife had the baby and it was a boy. We are so excited, after three beautiful girls they were hoping for a boy. Mommy went to the doctor and he said that her lungs were clear and her breathing was good. She's been running a low grade fever. I guess she's ok though.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
I got through yesterday, 3 months now. Today would have been Michael's birthday. I just realized that he was 57 too Kath. Kathy, I just wish I knew why you did this and why this way and on Mother's day. I guess there is no logical answer but that is what I always said. The survivors are left to wonder. I guess someday I will know.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Kath,
When I posted the last entry I noticed that my entry for the 11th wasn't there. I don't know what happened. I guess something went wrong and it's lost.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Monday, August 11, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello. We had Justin's party in Ocean City on Saturday and it turned out great. The kids all had so much fun. They did the rides for 2 hours and had a ball.
Rest peacefully.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
They had such a good time at the party. We never got home until close to 10 and the party started at 3. I got fudge too. Remember how we always got fudge whenever we went to the shore? Now my favorite flavor is vanilla nut. I bought a whole pound of the one flavor.
Love
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Hi Kath,
Today is Justin's party. He is actually going to be 7 tomorrow. Can't believe that 7 years have gone by already. The party is in Ocean City at the amusement pier. We are going with Jimmy in his car. For a while we thought Linda was going to have to work but she is off so she can go too. The kids are going to have a ball. They love the amusements. She's getting pizza from Southend in Margate. Kath, it is better than the pizza in Wildwood! Hard to believe but I actually like it better. I printed out a picture of his Wii game Lego Batman since I couldn't preorder it. I was so mad. He has to wait until September to actually get it. If they do the preorder I guess Joani & Artie will do it so that he doesn't have to wait. He'll be back in school before it comes out. Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, August 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani get done at 4 today so I am going to try to get an appointment to get my hair cut. We have Justin's party tomorrow. It is in Ocean City. The kids should really have fun. The summer is half over already. It is going to be strange being down the shore. I always think of you whenever anyone even talks about the shore. You certainly did love being there. Remember the Blue Diamond? Us standing on the pavement calling your name because they said that you couldn't have company? That place was really something. I am going to get frames this weekend. Hopefully I can look at the poem now.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello and tell you I am thinking about you.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
Emailed Frani again today. Please help her daughter to be ok. She is really worried and Megan is so young. Also help her granddaughter, Peyton, to be well. Frani has really had a lot to be concerned about lately. She certainly had God's help when Peyton was stung. Her staying calm is really what saved that baby's life. Her kids sound like they are really nice people. It seems like her and Bill are happy too. I'm glad because she had a hard life before that. Thinking of you often,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well last night I really missed you. Mommy went to the hospital for an xray but naturally I wasn't told. Norma took her to the emergency room and Frani had been talking to her right before she went. I got an email from Frani asking me if I heard anything about mommy. Naturally I knew nothing. I called Jim and he said Norma was with her. She had come home and left Jen with him and instead of him going back, he let Norma go. I asked him to call me and let me know what was going on and called Frani. Then he called me back and said if I wanted to talk to mommy she was home but couldn't find her calling card so I would have to call her, which I did. Then this morning I find out that she called Frani. It never changes Kath, and I am really trying to do what you would have wanted me to do. It is really hard because it is still the same. I thought losing you would have made her value me more but apparently not. I will keep trying but please help me because it is not easy. I really miss you, little sister.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, August 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
We are having crab gravy and macaroni for lunch. Joani had it yesterday and she had huge crabs. I want to get them again myself. Mommy said she hasn't crabs for years so I guess Jim and Norma don't eat them. I said possibly the next time that they come I might make crabs .
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, everything seemed to go well last night. We are going to the Casino today and it is a beautiful day. Not to hot but really nice. We haven't been there for quite a while but going to Harrah's in Chester isn't bad because it doesn't take long to get there. It's only 15 minutes from my house. Hopefully I might actually win something.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Hi Kath,
Having the "grandmothers" over again. I'm making gnochi and meatballs and sausage. Mommy mentioned that she loves them. We're picking them up around 3 this afternoon because neither one likes to stay too late. I made the meat already because it gets so hot in the kitchen when you cook. I couldn't get Justin the preorder so I just got him a gift card and he can buy the game when it comes in.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, August 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
Talked to mommy today and she said that she called my mother in law. I had them both here last week and they hadn't seen each other for a long time. Mommy said she enjoyed seeing her and then she called her at Sals. Apparently he said that my mother in law was resting. I don't know why but she never called mommy back. I guess I just can't get over the fact that now they can get along and when my kids were young and I wanted them to get along they couldn't do it. I really don't care now. I guess things never are the way that you want them to be.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Hi Kath,
Have to go to Toys R Us this weekend and get Justin's birthday gift. It is hard to believe that he is going to be 7 already. I am getting him a WII game. He wants the Lego Batman but it doesn't come out until September. I will preorder it and get him a gift card so that he can pay for it and get something else too. Still trying to call mommy every morning because I know that you always called. She didn't sound too good yesterday. She is having trouble with the weather and her breathing. Then she tells me she had to go to the store because she was making a cake because Norma asked about it. It is too hot for her to be running to the stores and especially to be putting the oven on to make cakes. But I don't say anything because it is not up to me.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Hi Kathy,
I ordered my pictures last night. I wish that I could show you the pictures. They really came good and I took so many with my own camera. I am going to get all of them printed and maybe do some enlargements.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy told me yesterday that the stone that they picked has the Blessed Mother on it. I can't believe that they picked that. It has been a recurring theme since all of this happened. If I had been there it is what I would have picked too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, July 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani got a large picture of all of us 19 from Disney. It came today and it is really nice. I am going to order the same one. I have to get a frame for that and I still didn't get a frame for your poem. I want to hang that too. Mommy went with Tom and Norma and ordered your stone.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
Getting ready to go to church. Going to the 10 today, we usually get up for the 8:30 but my allergies are driving me crazy today. Never did get mommy yesterday, her phone is always busy. I laugh because I remember how mad you always got because she didn't have call waiting. She still doesn't have it Kath.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Emailed Frani today and her granddaughter is doing well. They have to watch her for a while and hopefully she won't get stung again. She was really lucky and Frani actually saved her life. I know that Frani isn't looking at it like that but that is actually what happened. Even the baby told her that. She spent yesterday with her and I'm sure that it made her feel better to see her and realize that she really was ok. Didn't get mommy this morning, guess she was either at the store or at Jimmy's. I made crabs today. I know that you loved it too and I made extra gravy so that I could freeze some.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, July 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well we got through yesterday. I got an email from Frani this morning and she had the worse day of her life yesterday. Her granddaughter got stung and she was allergic. She had to call an ambulance and the little girl could have died. She will have to have an epi pen now in case she ever gets stung again. Thank God it ended the way it did.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Happy Birthday. I wish this wasn't the way I had to say that to you. You probably would be in Wildwood right now if you were still here, or maybe even Florida. I was thinking the other day of when I was a kid and it was your birthday and I went to Pint Size Shoppe remember that store on Broad Street and found two t-shirts and I bought them for you with my own money. I was so happy and couldn't wait for you to open them. They were both that orangy-peachy color you liked. You used to wear them all the time and I remember being so happy when you would. I even told the salesgirl that I was buying them for my aunt. It's funny, I still see her. She lives around the corner from me now. I think of all these memories from years ago and I try to remember when everything went wrong but I really am not even sure when it was. It all seems to be when you and Uncle Freddy got divorced. It's hard to even remember. I guess it doesn't even matter now though.
Would you do me a favor? If you see my Spudsy up there, please tell her that I remembered that Saturday was her birthday and give her a big hug and kiss for me. I miss her so much and I know you understand that because of Ginger and Cindy.
Yesterday was Jennifer's birthday. I hope they enjoyed it. She is not having a party this year from what I hear, just some friends over. Next year she will be a teenager. I remember when she was a little infant and I watched her a couple of times when Grandmom was real sick and Norma was at the hospital. Tiffany was only 2 herself and she cried when Norma came to get her back. She was so mad at Norma, she wouldn't even look at her. She thought Jennifer was ours to keep.
Well, I am sure this is a hard day for everyone. It hasn't rained here since I have been back from Florida and it's been a storm since last night. I guess Heaven is crying too. Anyway, please help us all get through this day okay. Please help my mother. She is having such a bad week and I don't even know what to say or do to help her. It's because I know that I really can't help her. I haven't talked to Grandmom since I have been home but I will try to call her this weekend.
Well, sleep well and enjoy your birthday with God and Grandpop. It's been a long time since you celebrated one with him. I hope Ginger and Cindy have extra kisses for you today too for us.
Please watch over us all, especially the kids.
Happy Birthday and Love Forever,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Well Kath, it's your birthday and you are not here to wish a Happy Birthday. This is another hard day, I have a lot of them. I was trying to remember the last time that I was actually with you on your birthday. I think it was when you were still with Freddy. You didn't have any parties with Chuck and then if you celebrated over Mommy's I wasn't there. It's sad to think of how things ended up. We were always so close and the whole family was close. I do have that with my kids and grandkids. I even have that with their inlaws. I guess I am lucky and I made some right choices. I guess you are glad that you are with Daddy and I guess if you really loved him Chuck is around you too. I was never sure of that relationship and I didn't see him enough to know if it was right or not. Just know that I still love you and miss you and am wishing you a very happy birthday today. Love your big sister,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
It's about 9:30 and I just wanted to talk to you once more today. I had a really bad day today. I thought of all the birthdays that we had together when we were kids. Do you remember that picture on your first birthday where I am sticking my tongue out? I don't remember why I was doing that. I was thinking of all the parties we had as kids and then the ones when you had the cake from Melrose. You liked the chocolate and I liked the butter so you would get one of each. Tif has your name for her middle name and she likes the chocolate one too, isn't that funny. Frani sent me a touching video of lions and I was showing it to Joani's kids and then I started to cry. I hate when I do that in front of the kids. I know that they feel bad for me but I don't want to worry them. My kids both talked to me today because they knew how I was feeling. Actually I am lucky because I talk to them everyday. I wish you could have had that.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
Today is Jenn's birthday. Tomorrow yours and it's really hard to be having this day and you are not here. I sent Jenn two ecards and I got her a necklace from Disney while we were there. I have been doing puzzles on the net. Remember how much we used to do puzzles when we were kids? We always had a puzzle in the middle of the dinning room table that we were working on. Whisper a little prayer to Jenn today for her birthday.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Had a really bad day yesterday. Couldn't get mommy on the phone from 6 last night until 10 when I finally gave up. Had to call Jim 3 times before he finally called me back. Her phone was busy all those hours and I knew that she couldn't be talking all that time. I even emailed Frani and then felt bad for worrying her. I needed you! I would have talked to you and felt better. I think because your birthday is coming up it is making it even harder.
Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Monday, July 21, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello and let you know I am thinking about you. Grandmom went to my mother's house on Saturday night. I am sure you were watching and happy to see that. They talk on the phone every day and I know that you are happy about that too. I think about you so much. As I started to write this my handbag was on the chair next to me and it just fell off. I will take that as a sign that you are telling me that you think about us too. Uncle Jimmy went down the shore for the weekend. I hope he relaxed and had some fun. I know my parents have been very worried about him. I am sure you were watching over them. I wear your angel pin everyday.
Well I am getting ready to go to work so I will write again soon. Rest peacefully and please watch over all of us, especially the kids.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, July 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
Boy has it been hot! I hope this hot spell breaks soon. You know I don't like the heat unless I am in a pool. It is actually hotter here than it is in Florida. Frani said that it is never really hot where she lives but the other day it was 96! And she doesn't have air conditioning. Can you imagine? Dolores sent me a beautiful plaque with a "friend" saying on it. It plays "You've got a friend" and it really touched me. She said that even tho I lost you I still have her. She is really a caring person. She always makes me feel better. Haven't talked to mommy yet but I'll call her in a little bit.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well everything seemed to go well last night. Mommy didn't really want to stay too late because Jim is in Ocean Ciry and she had to go and feed the dog and let her out. She should have slept at Jim's and then she wouldn't have had to drive back and forth. You know mommy.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
Got the two mothers coming for dinner today. We wanted to give them the stuff we bought them in Disney and figured that having them both come for dinner would be the easy way. Got Jen a necklace with her name on it. Figured I'll give that to mommy for her. Been emailing Frani and it seems like we fell right back into knowing each other after all these years. Strange how things work sometimes.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, July 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Couldn't get on this website earlier. Mommy is going to stay at Jim's because they are going to Ocean City for the weekend. They are going for some seafood festival. It sounds nice. She is going to stay with the dog. It is so hot her they are afraid to leave the dog without air conditioning on. It is hotter here than it was when we were in Florida. Funny how everybody always says that Florida is so hot. Did I tell you that we went to Liberty Tree Tavern while we were there? That is really my favorite place down there. I think that they will go there for dinner on Thanksgiving. She'll probably have to make a reservation soon to be able to get it. We're getting something from Kentucky Fried Chicken for dinner. We are going to get the turkey and chicken from BJ's for tomorrow when the "mothers" come over for dinner.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Hi Kath,
Been emailing Frani and it's funny but she seems so much like me. We really haven't talked for years and we seem to have ended up the same way. We were so close at one time it's strange how we drifted apart. She seems happy and I'm glad. She understands how I feel since she's lost a sister and three brothers. Joani is going to go back to Florida in November. She is getting a great rate and a two bedroom suite. She deserves it since she got all of us the price that she had this time. Our brother Jim is going down the shore for the weekend and I invited mommy for dinner on Saturday. At first I thought she was going to refuse because of taking care of Jim's dog but she said yes. This is the first time that she will be in my house for a couple of years. The last time was when I had my birthday at the house and got chinese food. The time before that was when I had my first knee operation 2001. Seems strange but since you aren't here things are going the way that you would have wanted. Why couldn't this have happened while you were here to enjoy it too? I guess you are watching and happy tho.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
I wish that you could see the pictures that we have from Disney. Tiffany did a power point with the pictures and it is really something. I would never know how to do something like that. The kids know how to do everything on the computers today. We talked about that how they are so good and it takes me time to do the simple little things that I do. Been talking to Franiemail and strangely we both were thinking about things that happened long ago. We actually got some things out that we had never talked about all these years. Kath, come to Terry and try to point her in another direction. She needs some help and between you and Aunt Rita maybe she can turn her life around.
Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello and tell you how much I have been thinking of you. We all miss you terribly.
We had a great time in Florida but thought of you often. Rest peacefully.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
We talked about you so much in Florida. I told them the story about the Knights show that you went to see. We were on the same road that you stayed on too. We did the photopass at Disney and you would have loved the pictures. Seems like such a long time since I've talked to you. I think of all the things that will go unsaid now.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, July 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
Back to the normal life. I'm over Joani's with the kids. The vacation really went too fast. Frani emailed me. Her grandkids are really beautiful. She sounds happy and I'm glad. She didn't have it easy for some time. She understands losing a sister. She seems to have been closer to Uncle Billy than Aunt Rita tho. They were closer in age and I think that has a lot to do with it. I love our brother but he could never have the closeness that we had because we grew up together.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just getting ready to go to Mass. I really was shocked about Harry and I will include his name today with you and daddy. It is so hard to realize that I will never be able to really talk to you again. I have so many things that I want to say to you and talk about with you. I thought of you while I was in Disney. I remember you complaining about how much walking there was to do in Epcot especially. Remember how everyone was taller and you said they took such big steps that you had to run to keep up with them? I always think about you when I see the mouse ears too. I remember you bringing them home for me the first time that you went with Freddie. He must be really upset about Harry too. First he lost you and now Harry. Donna said that they cremated him. I'm glad that you didn't want that. Well, I'm getting ready to go to Mass so I will talk to you later. Love you,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, July 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
Having a bad day today. I'd like to know when I won't just start crying for no reason. It doesn't even seem to have gotten any easier. In fact, it seems harder each day. Two months have gone by but nothing is easier, just harder to accept each day. I think all the familiar things in Disney made me think of you even more. I didn't wear my angel pin there because I was afraid of losing it, but Joani wore hers every day. It is hard on all of us. Jimmy and Joani are having a hard time too and I feel bad because I know that I am no help to them. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just got back from Florida. We really had a great time. It was good to have time to be with the kids there. We did just everything! Went on all of the new and old rides and ate with the characters. We actually celebrated my birthday while we were there. We all went to Liberty Tree Tavern. Joani gave us tickets to go to the Polynesian Luau and Art and Dolores got tickets from her too. We really had a good time. I guess you already know about Harry. We were so shocked to find out that he had died. No one told us and it happened on June 6! I really miss having you to talk to and tell you all the things that are happening. I saw the email from Frani so I will email her back. I guess she is the only one really left now who is from "our time" and who knows me from a child. Strange how things work out sometimes. Love you,
F
Fran posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
Hi Kathy,
I just wanted to drop by and tell you that you have been on my mind a lot and to let you know I think about happier times. I understand.
Joan, I saw your message and would love to keep in touch via email. fhinkel@roadrunner.com
J
JIM SANTANGELO posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Hi,
JUST WANTED TO SAY I MISS YOU AND THE CHILDHOOD THINGS WE SHARED. WE ARE LEAVING FOR FLORIDA TONIGHT, I THINK I WILL DO US GOOD. CANT WAIT!!
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, we're leaving today. I won't be writing again until July 12. Won't stop thinking about you though. We would have spent the last couple of weeks talking constantly about this vacation. You know how much I love Disney and being there with all of the kids is only going to make it better. We never did celebrate my birthday so we are treating all of them to dinner at Liberty Tree Tavern for my birthday. The kids will really love it because the characters are all there. Wish you could be with us and wish that things could have been so different. Love you always,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
Couldn't sleep last night. Have been up since 4 this morning. Just talked to mommy. She is still having trouble with everything. We've been talking about DisneyWorld a lot. She feels bad that Jen hasn't been there. I know that if you had been here you would have taken her with you. I hope that she does get there. We'll be leaving on Wednesday. We're going to sleep from 12 to 6 and then get back on the road. I think that will be safer.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 30, 2008
Hi Kath,
Couldn't get on this site yesterday. I don't know what was wrong, I tried quite a few times. We brought our suitcase to Jimmy's yesterday. Talked to Justin and Joani last night. We can't wait to get there and they can't wait for us to get there. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
The 4th always makes me think of you. Remember when we were kids and we always went to Wildwood for the 1st two weeks of July? We had so much fun. Daddy loved it too. I remember when we first lost daddy and I had a hard time being in Wildwood. Then we grew up and I would meet you there with my family. You always wanted to be on the boardwalk with us. We have some great memories of those days.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, June 27, 2008
Hi Kath,
Joani got to Florida. She called me about 3:30 today. We went to the store to get all the last minute things that we need for our vacation. My husband needed sneakers, socks and another pair of shorts. I got three pair of shorts and socks. We're really ready now. Alexa emailed me today and she is so excited! I think that we all feel that we need this vacation this year. It won't make it better but being with the kids at DisneyWorld will definitely help. I am really glad that Art and Dolores are going to be there too. Joani got us tickets to the Polynesian Luau. All 4 of us are going. I'll be thinking of you,
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy sent me two pictures that you had in your albums. One is me and daddy and I am about 5. The other is you, daddy and me and we must be about 4 and 9. Joani left for Florida today.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well, Joani leaves for Florida tomorrow. I can't wait til we go next week. I am going to miss the kids all week, I am used to being with them. I still didn't get a frame for the poem. I am going to take the measurements with me this weekend and get one. I want to hang it up. I know that it makes me cry but it really is beautiful.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Hi Kath,
Spoke to Marge yesterday. It will never be the same between us. She has no compassion for anyone but herself. She tried to compare her situation with mommys. It's a laugh. I always felt sorry for her and tried to be understanding but no more. She has no idea of how I feel but she can explain my grief away. Only hers is real. I think of you every day. I miss you every day. I think of a thousand things that I want to say to you every day. Someday we will be together again and we will be able to talk again.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy talked to Tom and she said that he is getting that picture made for himself. It was nice of him to let mommy keep the one that they had. We went to Alexa's graduation party yesterday. Got lucky and it didn't rain at all so we were able to keep it outside and the kids got in the pool. Everybody had a nice time. Joani leaves this Thursday for Florida. Can't wait til we leave and join her there.
Marge called me again. I think that I will call her back and tell her exactly how she made me feel. I'm tired of keeping my feelings to myself and listening to hers.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, June 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
Tif's name was in the church paper again. She got the top scholarship of all the kids in her class. Today is Alexa's party. They are having it in the yard and now it is supposed to rain. I guess we will have to go inside.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
Everything was so nice at the graduation. Alexa looked so nice and she got high honors. We went out to eat afterward. I have my eye appointment on Monday. Hopefully everything will be ok and he will put me on one drop instead of using two different ones. Getting ready to go to Florida, Joani leaves this week and we come next week.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, June 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
Alexa graduates today. She got tickets for us to attend. I'm so glad because I felt bad that we couldn't be there. We didn't get to see Erica graduate. I can hardly believe that I have all 4 granddaughters in high school. It seems like only yesterday my kids were there and it doesn't seem like that long ago that we were in high school. I guess life just gets away from you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Hi Kath,
Artie got home safely from Connecticut again. We took the girls to their party at the Rotunda. Hope they have a good time. Tomorrow Lex is graduating. We got her flowers already so that we don't have to go tomorrow morning. Got my shirt from the Cancer Society and they are sending me a free one since I discovered they had a glitch in their system. This way I have one to wear in the water and one to wear over my bathing suit as a coverup. Hopefully it will really work and help me not to get any more skincancer.
Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to stop by and say hello and let you know that I am thinking about you.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Hi Kath,
Don't know why but I've been thinking about a lot of things that happened long ago. Things that only you and I know about. It seems strange that no one else is there to talk about these things with now. We shared so many confidences and things that happened to us as children and growing up. I miss being able to talk to you. You will never have this pain and that is probably the only good thing that has come out of all of this. I really wouldn't wish this on anyone. You never really understood what we would be left feeling. Miss you more everyday.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
Talked to mommy. She talked to Eileen and she seemed to help her. She lost a son so she understands what mommy is going through. Really should get Frani's email from mommy. She seemed to help mommy too and wouldn't mind emailing her once in a while. Emailed Lee today, she suffers with skin cancer just like I do. She understands what I go through. I was so proud of the "Congratulation" to Tiffany that was in our church paper yesterday. Now everyone knows about the scholarship. We are so proud of her. She works really hard and deserves everything she gets. Love,
Joan
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 16, 2008
Hi Kath,
Going to be going over Joani's every day now til we go to Florida. The kids are done school. Write again later.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to Tif's party yesterday. It was in Mays Landing. It really was a beautiful place and the food was so good! Afterward we all went to Ocean City and all of the kids went on rides. They had such a good time. We went for pizza and ice cream in Margate on the way home. We never got in the house til 11 last night and we started out at 11:45 am. It was really a full day. I guess it was really better that mommy decided not to come because there was some kind of smoke there from the fires burning in the Ozarks! I can't believe it can come all the way here. It wasn't anything that you could smell but you could see it like a haze over the water. And it would have been hard on her to be out all day I imagine. I felt like I wanted her to come because I know that she does go to Ocean City with Jim and Norma but I guess she knows how she feels. The shore always makes me think of you.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, June 13, 2008
Hi Kath,
Gina finished school for the year and jumped in the fountain. It really seems funny to think that she is doing something that mommy did so many years ago. Tif went with her because she will be a Freshman in September. We are going to the St Anthony's Festival tonight. Talked to mommy today and she seemed down. I guess we both are always down these days.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Hi Kath,
Tif graduated last night. It was a beautiful service. She was part of a dance that the girls did to honor the Blessed Mother. again the Blessed Mother I was so proud of her. She got awards and you knew about her scholarship. It is worth $16,000. We are really so proud of her and all of the kids. Justin had his last day of school today and we went to that Mass. Tomorrow is Gina's last day and then they do the Hallahan Jump into the fountain. I can hardly believe that next year all 4 of my granddaughters will be in high school. They are really great kids and growing into young ladies that I can be so proud of every day. I really wish that you could be here and see all of this. It is so hard because we don't feel as tho we really know what happened. Mommy is coming to Tif's party on Saturday. I think it will do her good to be with all of the kids.
Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
Well today is one month. It feels like so much longer to me but yet it also feels like it was just yesterday. Tiffany graduates tonight. I am so proud of her.
Please continue to pray for all of us as we pray for you. I love you. Sleep well.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Hi Kath,
Kids were off so I was at Joani's all day. Talked to mommy this morning and she is waiting for an electrician. She is having trouble with the electric in her bedroom. My husband called her later and she said that it was fixed. She will be able to sleep in her bedroom tonight. Talked emailed about you today with Lee, you remember her, my husband's cousin. She is the same age as you, her birthday is the end of this month. Heat has been awful. Hope it is a little better tomorrow night because Tif graduates.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 9, 2008
Hi Kath,
Still calling mommy every day. Sometimes twice a day. My husband is even calling her. She is having a really hard time with this and we are all concerned about Jim too. He has been very quiet about everything. I really wish that we could talk about things but with the way that things had been we seem to have lost that closeness. You and I never really lost that and I have you to thank for that. You made sure that we talked all the time. Sometimes you drove me crazy but I was always glad that you pushed. I am especially glad now because we talked about a lot of private things before this happened. Thank you for that, I love you my sweet baby sister.
Joan
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, June 8, 2008
Hi Kath,
Well it's been 4 weeks now. When does it start to hurt a little less? It seems even harder now, because in the beginning it was still a shock. I still find myself crying for no reason and thinking of you constantly. I wish I could just talk to you one more time! I know that you have given me signs that you are okay and I am sure that you are with daddy but I miss you so much. I try not to breakdown in front of the kids but sometimes I don't even realize that I am crying. I look at your picture every day and remember my beautiful little baby sister.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, June 7, 2008
Hi Kath,
She had a really good time last night. She looked so beautiful when they left. Her hair was all done up with part of it off the shoulders and part down. She has hair like you, really thick and really long. I think that hers is even thicker than yours. She looked so grown up it could make you cry. Gina and Justin stayed with us and we got pizza, cheese fries and we rented ET. Remember that show? They really liked it. We played cards with them and then Justin fell asleep right before they got home. It was a good night.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, June 6, 2008
Hi Kath,
Tif has her 8th Grade dinner dance tonight. Joani and Artie take her. It really is nice and the kids have a great time. Gina and Justin will stay with me until they come home. Her dress is beautiful. You would be very proud of her, she looks beautiful in it. She let me come when they bought it. I was feeling blue and she thought it would cheer me up.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Hi Kath,
I have news about the kids. Alexa was chosen to go to a luncheon with the school board and give her opinion on various conditions in the Jersey schools. It was quite an honor. Tif found out yesterday that her scholarship is worth even more than we thought...over $16,000 and we are so proud of her. She graduates Wednesday and Alexa graduates the following Friday. So a lot is happening right now. Today is Jim's birthday. It is so hard to believe that he is 47! Remember when mommy brought him home from the hospital? We were so excited and you were finally going to lose the name of "the baby". Wish I could do those years all over again and make different choices. Maybe things could have turned out different. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Hi Kath,
I am talking to mommy every day. I read my poem too and that helps. The kids are getting ready to be done for the summer. I'll be there every day and then we will be leaving for Florida. I think that I really need it too. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Hi Kath,
I keep wondering when the tears will stop. I find myself crying even when I don't know that I am. I remember when daddy died and I couldn't let myself cry. Mommy kept saying to keep strong. I did it then but I don't seem to be able to do it this time. I guess it is because I don't have you here to help me. We were together all the time when we lost daddy. No one understood but us. We depended on each other but I have no one who really understands this time. I wish I could tell you how much I need you to still be here. Love,
j
joani posted a condolence
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
My mother gave me a copy of the poem that you wrote to her. I really cannot thank you enough for writing that. She was hoping so much that you had thought that she was a good sister to you and I don't know how much better you could have stated your love for her. I hope that it puts her mind to ease a little bit. It was so weird looking at your handwriting again because I haven't seen it in a while and I remember when I was a kid and I used to try to make my handwriting curvy like yours was because I thought it was so cool. Of course you know that I thought that because I thought everything about you was wonderful. But, I know that you already know that. Please continue to watch out for all of us. I will keep saying your Memorare's. Sleep peacefully. I love you.
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, June 2, 2008
Hi Kath,
Gina was off today and I was there today. I copied the poem and gave it to Joani to read. I can't read it to anyone else, because I can't read it without crying. It sounds strange but I enjoy reading it even though it makes me cry. It has really helped me. It almost seems like you knew that I would need it. It answers all of my questions. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Hi Kath,
We went to the Aquarium today. Joani, Artie and all of my grandchildren. My husband helped Jimmy with the pool and Linda had to work. The kids had a ball. We touched so many different kinds of fish. It was the kind of thing that you would have really enjoyed and you would have loved to see how the kids enjoyed it. I remember how much you and Freddie used to have fun with us and the kids. We have so many wonderful memories but they hurt even as they make me feel good to remember. Tom went to mommy's and I think that helps her too. They hung the picture. Now she has you in the parlor and with her all the time on the dogtag. Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to say hi and let you know that I am thinking about you. I just talked to Grandmom. She sounds pretty good. She told me she wants to be strong to make you proud and I told her that I am sure you must really be proud of her. My mother got her a beautiful dogtag with your picture on it. The jeweler did such a good job that in the sunlight, it actually looks like you can see the highlights in your hair. I think Grandmom is going to really like it. She keeps saying how talking to your picture is helping her so I think this may help because she can carry you around with her all the time. Please help her to come to peace with all of this. Please help my mother too. She tries to act upbeat for all of us but I know how much she is hurting. We all are. I just really hope and pray that you knew how much we all loved you through the years. I wish so much that things had turned out differently but I guess you can't change the past. I am still saying your Memorares and wearing your angel pin.
May God keep you in his care. I love you.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, May 31, 2008
I gave mommy the dog tag. It really is beautiful. I also got my poem. Kathy I can't read it without crying. I really love it. I will put it in a frame and treasure it forever. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Hi Kath,
Had to calm down after reading the poem. Mommy seems really happy with the Dogtag. Frani is calling a lot and I really am grateful to her. She really seems to be helping mommy a lot. I am going to the Aquarium with the kids tomorrow. They are really helping me and trying to be there as much as they can. We opened Jimmy's pool today. Hard to do normal things now. You are always on my mine.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, May 30, 2008
I got the dog tag for mommy today. It came really beautiful. I think that she will really love it. She talks to the picture so she will have this with her all the time. Hopefully, it will help her to feel close to you. I am going to try to get it to her on Saturday. We are opening Jimmy's pool on Saturday and I figured I can stop on the way home.
Frani has been calling her and I think that it is a help. I know that she is worrying about Aunt Pat too so that doesn't help.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Hi Kath,
I just came from watching Justin at school. They are having a field day and get to play games in the yard. He was having so much fun. He has been so upset about me it was good to see him having so much fun. He looks at my face to see if I am sad. He doesn't understand. He wants me to "not be sad anymore". I try for him. I think of you all the time and wish that I could just talk to you one more time. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Hi Kath,
Mommy got the frame for the picture. It really is a great picture. They picked the best one to make an enlargement. Mommy is going to hang it in her parlor. I have the one on the book and it sits on my entertainment center. I look at it every day and think of you and all of the things that I want to tell you. I wish I could talk to you one more time, but since I can't I use this to speak to you. Kath, I keep thinking why did this have to happen and get no answers. I wish things could be different but we have to deal with life the way that it is, not the way that we want it to be. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Thought about you a lot yesterday. It was actually one of the best weathered memorial days that I can remember. I was thinking how you would have loved that. You were always ready to go to Wildwood. We we laughing about the Blue Diamond Motel and how we had to call your name from the street because they wouldn't let you have visitors. They were good days. I hope we realized just how good they were. The kids were all together which I think was good for all of us. Love,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
We went down the shore this weekend and the kids rode the amusements. Justin wanted to ride the scrambler but it was closed and it made me think of when me and Jimmy were little and how you and my mother always rode the scrambler with us. We were not in Wildwood but even going to Ocean City this year seems to bring back memories of when I was a kid and we used to go down the shore with you and Uncle Freddy. We went on the beach too and I was thinking of all the time that we spent on the beach. We used to stay for hours. I remember painting the shells with you. You would take them home and use them as ashtrays.
Please watch over all of us. I talked to Grandmom over the weekend and she sounded good. I finished saying your nine days of Memorareâ??s so I am sure you are seeing God now. I will continue saying them anyway. It makes me feel better.
Rest peacefully. I love you.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, May 26, 2008
Hi Kath,
We're going to Jimmy's today. Talked to Mommy earlier today. She said Jen called her and she sounded very happy about that. I am going to ask her if she wants to hold on to the angel that Tom brought to her house. It seemed to me that she might want to keep it for a while. If it helps I would be glad to let her have it there. We have had that since I went to St Alphonsus school. She didn't remember the story behind it. You know I never forget anything. I will be thinking of you today. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, May 25, 2008
The book is at mommy's Kath. I can tell you it is going to be hard to read it again. I am glad that I have the memory of you reading it to me. I know that it meant a lot to you and you know how I will treasure it. He also brought an angel. It's funny how angels and the Blessed Mother keep popping up isn't it? I know, you want us to be comforted and it really does comfort me. Can't wait to see it now. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Hi Kath,
Sundays are hard for me. I am glad to be in Church and be close to Mary while I pray for you but it just means that it's another week gone by. We're going to my Jimmy's tomorrow. Memorial day...it will never mean the same thing to me again. I think of the soldiers but I will always think of it as being a memorial day to you too. I hope that we can all get through this, especially mommy, because it has really been hard for us to accept. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Kath,
Tom said that he was going to bring the book of poems to mommy today. Hopefully he will. I really want the poem that you wrote for me. No one else has heard it and I will give them all a copy if they want it but I am keeping the original. We are going to my Jimmy's on Monday and I guess it is fitting that the first holiday should be Memorial day. Every day is memorial day for me now. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, May 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
The two younger ones are off today so I'll be at Joani's today. Tif had a really good time in NY yesterday. We all have colds. We're praying for Aunt Pat now and maybe you can put in a good word for her. I don't want mommy to go through any more, she's holding up but not easily. I will say the prayer for you and the kids and Joani are saying it too. Love you,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Friday, May 23, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
Just wanted to say hi. Tiffany and I went to New York yesterday for her 8th grade trip. She had a great time. We stopped at St. Patrick's Cathedral and we lit a candle for you. I said your Memorare for you there too.
Hope you are resting peacefully.
Love,
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Friday, May 23, 2008
Hi Kath,
Just talked to mommy again. I have been calling her a couple of times a day. I know that you would have done that so I am doing it for you. I hope it is helping her. Frani called her a couple of times which she said made her feel good too. I just wish that we could clear up the doubts that we have. It won't change anything but maybe it would help us to accept this. Tiffany bought me something in NY and it has the Serenity Prayer on it. It really was a fitting thing to give me. Please know that I always loved you and still do,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
I went to mommy's last night and we looked at so many pictures of us when we were little. She still had some of us with daddy too. I'm going to take them all home eventually. We also did the thank you cards for the Mass Cards and flowers. Hard to do but we wanted to get that done. Kath, she gave me that beautiful picture of you. I didn't even realize that that book had a picture on it because it was open and I never looked at the front. I am trying to find out if I can get the guestbook to remain on the internet but they haven't answered me yet. I don't have a problem sponsering it if need be. Joani is in New York with Tiffany for her class trip today and Justin is having Alex's lemonade stand at school so we are going for him. Love you,
B
Bill posted a condolence
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Dear Family and Friends,
Although separated by many miles, our thoughts and prayers are close at heart during this most difficult and tragic time. We send our most sincere condolences to you, Aunt Sis, and to all of Kathyâ??s family and friends. Remember the good times and may you all find peace in the weeks and months to come.
Respectfully with love,
Bill and Christine Hinkel
F
Fran posted a condolence
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Joan,
Uncle Nick's page is still available and that is from April 22, '04. Once the page is no longer on the current memorial page, you can click on obituaries and put the name in the search box.
My thoughts are with you. I don't know if your Mom told you, but I had pneumonia and that is why I could not be there. I pray for you all every day.
Frani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Hi Kath,
I had to go over Joani's today because Tif and Joani went on Tif's 8th grade class trip. They are still in New York, probably won't get home til about 9 tonight. I am feeling a lot better about this book because Aunt Frani said that Uncle Nick's is still on there from '04 so maybe when they said 6 months they didn't mean that it would be totally off of the system. Jim sent me something too that makes it easier to accept if it eventually comes off. I have your picture on my entertainment center next to my crucifix. I can look at you while I am watching tv. I got really upset tonight because I was thinking of something that I wanted to tell you and then suddenly realized that I can't do that any more. I called mommy and she said she couldn't believe that I called because she was sitting there wishing that I would call. You got your wish Kath, you know what I am talking about. I guess your are working through both of us. Please help us both. It makes me feel so good to see that others are writing to you here too. I know how it helps me and I hope that it helps them too.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Hi Kath,
I just got off the phone with mommy. We are going to do the "thank you" cards today. I also got an email from cousin Babe Marie today. It is so hard to tell people and there are some that I know that we missed. It is hard to think. I am trying to find out if I can keep this Guestbook on the internet. I don't know if there is a way but if there is I will do it. This is helping me and makes me feel like I have a link to you. Gina is sick today so I am at Joani's.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Hi Kath,
I'm wearing your angel pin and talking to you. Gina is putting her Blessed Mother statue in the Chapel at Hallahan. That way whenever anyone stops in to say a prayer you will be prayed for too. I thought it was a good idea. She was chosen for Assistant Editor of her yearbook for next year and she will only be a Junior, usually Seniors are chosen. She has a good chance at being editor when she is a Senior. You would be very proud of her. My grandchildren are my rocks. And you know how I always have felt about my kids. I was lucky too, they have chosen wisely in marrying. I'm going to give mommy a call now. I'm also keeping in touch with Jen by email. Just to let her know that I am there and I care.
I was talking to mommy last night and I asked her if she remembered when I took you to the movies and you spent all of our candy money and then told me that you would have your hot dog and soda later. I left you with Angel and I walked home to get money so you could have it.
Love you,
J
Joani posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Hi Aunt Kathy,
I am thinking of you so much today. I don't know why today seems any different. Hope you are at peace. I will keep saying my Memorares for you.
Please watch over us all.
Love,
Joani
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joani posted a condolence
Monday, May 19, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
I am going back to work today. Please help my mother. She is having such a hard time dealing with this and I feel so bad that I will not be with her now. Please stay with Grandmom too. I talked to her on Saturday for a long time and talking to your picture is really helping her. I think she feels like she still has a part of you with her that way. Please help her to continue feeling that so she does not feel like she has lost you completely.
I am still saying your Memorare. Rest peacefully. I love you.
Joani
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, May 19, 2008
Kath,
He found the poem. I am so glad. He is bringing the book to mommy's and giving it to me. I am so glad that I have the memory of you reading it to me. We both were crying like babies by the time you finished because it was so beautiful. He also said that there was a Christmas thing that he wanted to give me. I think it was an angel. I'm not sure which one it is but I'll see it when he brings it to mommy's. I am going to go there one night this week to send the thank you cards. Now we have to get back to living our lives but it isn't going to be easy. When he called me last night and I saw your name on the caller id it was really hard.
Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Monday, May 19, 2008
I keep thinking that it will hurt a little less but instead it is getting worse. I called mommy three times today. I know that you would want me to make sure that she is ok so I am trying to do that. She is going to give Joani that picture of you with Ginger and Cindy. Joani had one of you with Ging but not any with both of them. She loved them just as much as you did. Help us get through this Kath, Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Sunday, May 18, 2008
I'm going to a little girl's birthday today. Somehow it seems fitting because if you remember we had my son's birthday one week to the day after daddy's funeral. I need to be around people who love me and that seems to help. I will have you in my heart all day. I am wearing the angel pin that they gave us. Love,
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Fran posted a condolence
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Dear Sis,
I am thinking about you and praying for you constantly. We have both lost brothers and sisters and parents, but there is no pain in the world like losing your child. Your pain must be a hundredfold of what others are feeling and I pray that God heals your heart and reminds you of all that Kathy did that was wonderful. She was a good-hearted soul and I know she loved you very much.
J
Joan posted a condolence
Saturday, May 17, 2008
One more day done. Today was a bad day and I don't even know why. My husband called Joani and she came over with Artie and the kids and that helped. Tomorrow I am going to her brother in laws house in Margate and there will be lots of kids which will be a big help. Dolores and Art will be there too and they are a blessing to me. They are always there for me. One night this week I am going to go over mommy's and do the Mass cards. She also said that I can have all the pictures of you and me from when we were kids. I don't know if I can look at them yet but I know that eventually I will be glad to have them. My grandchildren think that we look alike. I hope so because I always thought you were beautiful. My beautiful baby sister. Love you,
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Gina Cautilli posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
I was so saddened to hear the news of your passing. May your soul rest in peace with your dad's and your puppies' in eternal happiness. May God hold you in the palm of His hand forever. Please help my Grandmom and Grandpop get through this hard time. You will always be in my thoughts and prayers.
Loving you always,
your niece,
Gina Cautilli
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Megan Hinkel posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Words don't seem to do justice at times like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time. May God bless you and keep you all safe and strong.
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Gina Cautilli posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
My dear Grandmom,
I am so sorry that you have to go through this hard time. Just remember that we will be here for you and always. We love you so much! Be strong and know that your sister is in eternal happiness and we will always pray for her.
Loving you so much,
your oldest granddaughter,
Gina
And your youngest grandson,
Justin
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Gina Cautilli posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
My dear Grandpop,
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. We will always be here for you. Be strong through this hard time. We love you so much! Remember that Aunt Kathy is in Heaven.
Loving you greatly,
your oldest granddaughter,
Gina
And your youngest grandson,
Justin
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Joan posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Well, now the hard part is to go back to living like nothing is changed. I remember when daddy died and the funeral was over, I felt like the world should have changed and it really didn't, except for us. You were the only one that I wanted then because you really understood what I was going through. Now, I now that you are the only one who knows again but I don't have you this time. I can truly say that the only thing that is good about that is I wouldn't have wanted you to go through the heartbreak that I am feeling now. Kath, did you find Ricky? Tell him how much we loved him and didn't want to lose him when we did. Tom said he will look for the poems that you wrote and if he finds them he will give them to me. I would like to have the one that you wrote for me. It was so beautiful and I am so glad that I have the memory of you reading it to me. Love, your big sister.
j
joani posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
Thank you for helping us to get through yesterday. Grandmom was stronger than I ever imagined her to be and I know it is because you had your hand and Grandpop's on her shoulder. Please continue to be with her as she is hurting so bad. Please help my mother too. This is breaking her heart to lose her little sister. Please stay with us and guide us. The Priest at your Mass yesterday said that if we say the Memorare for you for nine days, that we can be sure that you will see God. I promise to do that for you. The Mass turned out beautiful. Cousin Rita read beautifully and Jimmy and Aunt Pat carried up the gifts. I am sorry that I could not be part of any of that but it took all I had in me to just sit in that pew. The Priest also gave out angel pins. I promise to wear that too so that I feel like I have a special angel looking down on me. My mother got them for the kids too and Norma got one for Jen. Please watch over all of them. Please also help Uncle Jimmy. He really needs your guidance also.
Uncle Freddy came too and I think it helped everyone to see him again. He helped carry you and I am glad that he did because I think you would have wanted that.
I will talk to you again soon. Rest peacefully. I love you.
Love,
Joani
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Tiffany Cautilli posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Dear Great Aunt Kathy,
Iâ??m so sorry to hear the news. You were a good, caring sister to my grandmother. My mom told me stories about when she was a kid and what a caring aunt you were to her. She told me about how you stood for her for confirmation and how when she wanted a dog, you bought two dogs. Well, now you can rest peacefully with Ginger and Cindy. You can most especially rest with your father. Even though weâ??re all sad here, I know youâ??re rejoicing in heaven and youâ??re standing right next to Great Grandpop, smiling down at us. I know that youâ??re here, helping us through these tough times and we all really need it right now, especially Grandmom. I know that you still are here now and youâ??ve got your arm around her shoulder and you always will. I know youâ??ll always be there when we think about you and start to feel sad. Now that I have my angel pin and my tiny Mary statue, I feel that I will always have a piece of you with me. I especially feel that youâ??re with me because my middle name is Kathleen, after your first name. Youâ??ll be missed by many. Rest in peace Aunt Kathy.
Until we meet again,
may God hold you in
the palm of his hand,
Your Great niece,
Tiffany Cautilli
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Tiffany Cautilli posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Dear Grandmom and Grandpop,
Iâ??m so very sorry that this had to happen. I want you to know that Gina, Justin, Erica, Alexa, and I love you very much and we are here for you. Remember, Aunt Kathy is happy right now. She is in the best place that anyone can ever want to be in. Sheâ??s with Great Grandpop right now, smiling down on all of us. She will live in forever in all of our hearts. She will live on through Mommy and me especially because we will carry her name forever. She has her arm on your shoulder, comforting you. Sheâ??s been hearing your prayers to her and sheâ??s been answering them with small signs. Now, you have another angel in heaven watching over you. Aunt Kathy is now in heaven with Great Grandpop, Spooky, Ginger, Cindy, Spudsy, Jaguar, Nicky, and most especially God and the saints.
I love you both so much.
Your loving granddaughter,
Tiffany
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Joan posted a condolence
Friday, May 16, 2008
Kathy,
This has been the worse week of my life and I am so glad that it is ending. I am so lucky to have my children and grandchildren to stand by me. They have really helped me this whole week. Joani has been by my side every minute this week and Jimmy has also been there for me. My husband is trying too but he is also hurting and it is hard for him to grieve because he is trying to help me. He has know you since you were 13 years old and you have been his little sister too. We are both worried about our brother Jimmy. He is not letting anyone help him. Please help him to find peace with this. If I didn't have the Blessed Mother to turn to I don't know what I would do. Ask God to touch his heart. I know that you will be there for us as you always were. You were a kind and loving sister to me and always made me know that you never stopped loving your big sister just as you always knew how much I loved my baby sister. Ever since the day that you came home from the hospital, I have been so proud to be your big sister. Love,
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Well, it's done. Somehow we got through today. Freddie was there too and we finally got closure. It took 25 years. I have the crucifix that was with you. I put that Blessed Mother in there for you to have with you. Please help mommy. She did so well today, and she did it for you. She covered you Kath, and stood strong. Please help all of us to accept this and go on with our lives. You will never be forgotten, or out of my thoughts. Donna was a good friend to you and she is having a hard time, help her too. I will talk to you again,
Love
J
JIM SANTANGELO posted a condolence
Thursday, May 15, 2008
DEAR AUNT KATHY,
WELL WE WENT THROUGH IT ALL TODAY, AND IT WAS VERY HARD ON EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS ALL WEEK NOT REALLY WANTING TODAY TO COME, BUT WANTING IT ALL TO BE OVER. IT MADE ME REALIZE HOW SORRY I AM THAT THINGS HAD TO COME TO THIS FOR YOU. I REALLY WISH THINGS WOULD HAVE BEEN DIFFERENT FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY.
IT WOULD HAVE MADE ME HAPPY FOR YOU TO KNOW MY WIFE LINDA AND MY GIRLS ERICA AND ALEXA. AND FOR YOU TO KNOW JOANI'S HUSBAND AND FAMILY ALSO. THEY ARE ALL REALLY GREAT PEOPLE WHO MAY HAVE MADE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE. AT LEAST I HOPE THEY WOULD HAVE. THINGS UNFORTUNATELY DONT ALWAYS GO AS PLANNED WITH LIFE. WE AS A FAMILY ARE TAKING THIS VERY HARD, IT IS NOT WHAT I EXPECTED TO HAPPEN TO YOU AFTER ALL OF THE YEARS THAT I WAS A CHILD AND THE GREAT MEMORIES THAT WE ALL SHARED. MY SISTER AND MY PARENTS AND I HAVE TALKED ABOUT ALOT OF THINGS THAT WE DID WITH YOU AND UNCLE FREDDY AND ALL OF THE FUN TIMES WE SHARED TOGETHER. SOME OF MY BEST MEMORIES HAVE BEEN WITH YOU AND HIM THROUGH OUT MY CHILDHOOD LIKE GOING TO WILDWOOD WITH YOU GUYS AND GOING ON RIDES TOGETHER. GOING TO PONZIOS AND OLGAS DINER'S ON SUNDAY AFTERNOONS FOR DINNER AND THEN HEADING LATER ON AT NIGHT TO GET ICE CREAM. I MISS THOSE DAYS WHEN LIFE WAS SIMPLE.
WELL I WILL TALK WITH YOU FROM TIME TO TIME AND I HOPE AND PRAY YOU ARE HAPPY!!!
LOVE
JIM
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Agnes Trotter posted a condolence
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Dear Sis and Family,
Please accept my deepest condolences on the loss of your daughter and sister, although I haven't seen Kathy in many years I have many fond childhood memories of your family.Regretfully I couldn't be there with you but know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Cousin Agnes
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Fran posted a condolence
Thursday, May 15, 2008
I am thinking of you all right now as you attend the viewing. I am so sorry I had to get sick at this time. I want you all to know I am with you in spirit.
And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Love, Fran
J
Joan posted a condolence
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Well, it is finally here. I hope that you will hold my hand and help me get through today. Help mommy because she is really going to need your help. Touch Jim's heart and help him to heal too. My kids are heartbroken. They keep thinking of all that we shared. I know that you did know that we all loved you and that brings me some peace. I will talk to you every day and never forget you.
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Eileen kallaur posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Dear Sis,Joan,Jim,Tom,and family,
I am deeply sorry to hear of your loss. Kathy and the family will be in my prayers always.
Love,
your cousin Eileen
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Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
It's almost time. I hope that you will help me to get through tomorrow. I want to remember all the things that we shared. Memories are so precious now. I am thinking of so many things that only we know about. Our hoagies and banana splits, mashed nannies, the juice in Wildwood, your nose bleed on your wedding day and so much more. We shared a room for so many years and our lives for so many more. I don't want to say that I don't have a sister any more. You will still be my sister, just in a better place. I miss your already. Please know that you are in my heart my beloved baby sister. Remember when I went to work and we used to go out every weekend and buy something new? I love you Kath, today and always. I wish that I could bounce on the bed to help you sleep like I did when you were a baby.
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erica santangelo posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
I was very sorry to hear about the sad news, I hope your having happiness in heaven, you are now with your Dad, your dogs, Spooky, Spudsy ,and my cats Jaguar and Nicky
RIP Aunt Kathy
Love,
Erica
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Alexa Santangelo posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy-
I am really sorry to hear the news. I hope that you are in heaven with your dad.
Rest in peace.
Alexa
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Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
Thank you so much for the sign today. I feel so much better! You really must have been listening yesterday. You couldn't have picked a better way to tell me that you are allright.
Love,
Your big sister
Joan
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Fran posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
For Thomas
I know your pain must be unbearable. Our wonderful Kathy is at peace now and it is those left behind who must deal with the indescribable grief. My prayer is for God's Healing Hand to touch you all.
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Fran posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Dear Sis, Joan, Jim and Families
My heart is breaking that I cannot be there with you to share your sorrow. Know that you are all in my prayers. My wish is for you all to hold on to the wonderful memories and know that there was nothing you could have done to change things. I am happy for Kathy that she is with her beloved Dad. Stay close to one another and see each other through this.
Kathy, take your rest in the arms of the Angels.
Much love,
Fran and Bill
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Joan posted a condolence
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Hi Kath,
I can't sleep. We're supposed to have "alone" time with you today. I can't do it. If I go today I will never get through tomorrow. I had Joani call Freddie last night. I know that is what you would have wanted. Please tell daddy how much I miss him and give my Spooky a kiss for me. I can just imagine how happy Ginger and Cindy were to see you. How happy you must be to have them all with you again. Help me to get through tomorrow, I don't know if I can do it. Mommy wanted me to read but I can't do that. I'll never get through it. Give daddy a kiss for me.
Your big sister
Joan
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Fred DiGiovanni posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Please accept our deepest sympathy on the passing of Kathy. Though her life was cut short her love of family and devotion for friends will live on forever. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you always.
Fred DiGiovanni & Family
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Joani posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Dear Aunt Kathy,
I really cannot believe that this has happened. I have so many happy memories of my childhood that you were such a big part of, from my wanting Ginger and Cindy and you ending up with them and loving every minute of it!, to all the times you won prizes for me at Twin Spin in Wildwood to your being my Godmother at my Confirmation. I am so glad that I took your name. You were always the â??coolestâ? aunt anyone ever had. I remember every Christmas Eve when Jimmy and I would want to open up a present and everyone would tell us that we had to wait until Christmas morning but you and Uncle Freddy always let us open up your gift ahead of time. Of course, mine was always whatever the coolest doll was. I remember everyone, including Uncle Jimmy, feeding my Baby Alive. I also remember the hours and hours that we all sat and played with my Playdoh. I remember all the birthday parties that you attended of ours and how you always waited until everyone else left and Uncle Freddy would have his second piece of cake while you looked at all my presents with me.
I am so saddened that this has happened. Please help us to get through this awful tragedy. Please especially help my mother, who is grieving so much for her little sister. Please also help Grandmom, who feels like her world has collapsed. Please help Jennifer too. She is just a child and I am sure it is so hard for her to understand this. I will never forget you and will always pray for you, but please, you pray for us too.
I love you,
Your Niece and Goddaughter,
Joani
Joani, Artie, Gina, Tiffany & Justin Cautilli
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Joan & Jim posted a condolence
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
To my beloved little sister,
I miss you so much already but I know that you are with daddy. You missed him so much for all these years I know that he rejoiced seeing you. Please know that I love you and will always pray for you. You have been my beloved little sister. Pray for us too.
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